As my cell phone rang I could see my wife was calling. Expecting a typical “Hi honey, how is your day?” conversation, I took the call. It turned out that we had received another request to open our home to a child without a home. Another mom and dad had made choices resulting in a brand new baby needing a place to sleep for his first night out of the hospital.
Typically I wouldn’t have been so hesitant. We have been a temporary place to call home for a dozen or so kids, but Kara and I had just talked about taking a break from “fostering” to focus on our biological children. The circumstances tugged on our hearts and so blindly we jumped into another potentially life changing situation.
As the Father, Spiritual Leader, Bread Winner, etc. I have the tendency to enjoy being in control of the direction our family is going. Actively choosing to care for the fatherless means there are going to be uncontrollable people and events moving into your life.
I wish I could say that all of my decisions to become a temporary father for an orphan were made with noble intentions. But the fact is…being obedient to the calling means sometimes I just say “yes” because I know it’s the right choice. Psalm 82:3-4 says “Defend the cause of the poor and the fatherless! Vindicate the oppressed and suffering! Rescue the poor and needy! Deliver them from the power of the wicked!”
Most of the time my idea of taking a break from fostering to “focus on my kids” is really just a front to cover up my selfishness. I might as well just admit that I want more time to do what I want.
Looking back on that decision to bring a newborn baby boy into an already busy family, I am reminded of the importance of following what you know to be true and not following the feelings of our heart. That baby boy, who we soon started calling Cale, would be in our house for 637 days…until the adoption was final, and he became ours legally. It was a journey with ups and downs, but the reward makes all the troubles fade away. For me this was a glimpse of what Paul was teaching Timothy about how we should live a selfless life to really experience “the life which is really life” (1 Timothy 6:18-19).
I invite you to step outside of the normal life to see what is truly available. The laughs, hugs and smiles from Cale are my constant reminders that there is more to life than trying to make myself comfortable. I would rather experience life that is really life!
Cory Reid, husband to TFI Advocate, Kara
When God opened their eyes in 2009 to the needs of the foster care community, He also ignited a passion in Kara to serve the families effected by foster care. Along with her husband, Cory, and 4 biological boys, they have been serving Jesus by caring for those in need. Kara has been praying for God to show her how to get others in her community of Woodward, Oklahoma involved and felt Him lead her to TFI.