Advocacy, Vulnerable ParentsJun. 17, 2015

To the man who is called ‘Bio Dad’…

To the man who is called ‘Bio Dad’…

You’re life has been hard, difficult and heartbreaking.  You have had many people against you, giving you the impression that you cannot do this, that you are not worthy of being called ‘dad.’  You put up a tough front, isn’t that what men are supposed to do – act like they don’t care, like they are not affected by the pain and hurt that has happened in their life?  You wonder if you can do this or if you should just bow out now and relinquish your partental rights.

I want to tell you something that may go against all that you’ve learned in your hard life, listen very closely….

You are worth it.  

You are cared for. 

You are loved. 

You CAN do this.  

There is a little one not too far away from you who loves you, who calls you “daddy” and asks about you constantly.  He wonders how you are, he cares for you.

Its hard, I know, but you can do what is best for your child.  Think through it. Is it best for your child to come home to you?  Then fight like crazy to get him back.  Is it best for your child to stay with his foster parents, even though you desire so much to get him back?  Then love him enough to let go.

No matter how many people tell you or give you the impression that you’re not worth it, that you can’t do this, I pray you look up to the One who created you, the One who knit you together in your mother’s womb many years ago preparing you for this very day, because unfortunately, He knew exactly what kind of traits and characteristics you would need for this heartbreaking time in your life. He loves you and is FOR you.  He is rooting for you to succeed.  So on those hard days when you feel like you can’t do this – remember that you have a little one and the Almighty One on your side.  

You are worth it. 

You are cared for. 

You are loved. 

You CAN do this.  

Jillian Kellenberger

Jillian Kellenberger

Jillian has a passion for loving and reaching out to those who are hurting. She graduated from Illinois State University with a Bachelor’s degree in social work. Her role with TFI began as a volunteer and a year and a half later she joined the team full time. She is now serving our TFI Advocates as Advocate Support.

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