Encouragement, Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingSep. 4, 2015

Forgotten Friday: You, friend, are not alone.


I have a dear friend.

Her heart is incredible and she is walking a journey of listening, discerning, obedience and heart change. I received an email from her last week that sounded so desperate and so exhausted and I thought some other mamas may need to hear this truth in my reply to her…

Sweet (insert your name), 

I am now home-reading your email again and responding.  I almost dialed your number but for some reason I feel led to type out my words of encouragement and affirmation right now. Maybe so you can read them again and again (I don’t even know what I am going to type but it must be good:)

I love you. When I read your words about being battle weary, my soul sank to the moments over the past few months when I felt the same way. My heart empathized with each word and emotion about your unbelief. I know what it feels like to think God must have chosen the wrong mom. That I heard his calling incorrectly. That there is no way I can follow where he is leading. That I will NEVER feel that deep JOY or belief or drive again. I was completely broken but it felt so so so lonely. I could barely muster up the words to share at times because it just all felt so hopeless and dead. My daily flood of tears felt refreshing, but only for a few moments.  Only until the reality of my situation hit me again like a wave sweeping me off of my feet. How could God be so good while I felt so crappy?

The tunnel was dark. It was quiet-deafening at times. It was lonely. Friends that offered       encouragement felt so far away even when they held me in their embrace as I sobbed through the pain. They didn’t really understand and their words dropped short of my need for connection.

The darkness seemed too dark at times. I didn’t just want to give up, I did. 

But then there was hope. Small rays of light shined through the darkness. Because the dark cannot overtake the light. Psalm 112:4 says, “When darkness overtakes the godly, light will come BURSTING IN!” 

I am praying for the LIGHT of Jesus to come bursting in tonight for you. 

This song will encourage you. He is all you need. Keep looking to him, dear friend. You will come out of the tunnel and your journey will finally look like something beautiful. I can already see the shimmer of your obedience, sacrifice, desire and weakness. I can only imagine the view our King has…watching his beloved daughter walk in surrender. 

My heart is overflowing because of the joy your friendship brings to me.

UPDATE: My friend at the end of this original email just returned home from China with her fourth child. Looking back on this letter reminds me of God’s faithfulness to those who are bold enough to step into their calling.

Be bold, foster mama friend.

Find courage in your weakness…its so very beautiful. 

Kristy Sutton 10728970_10204594659119470_473726432_n

Kristy and Zach are biological parents to 4 beautiful kiddos under the age of 9. They have called 8 other babies their own since starting their journey as a foster family in the summer of 2012. They say yes to the hard and crazy as they follow Jesus on this journey of surrender and obedience. Kristy loves coffee, good conversation, comfy clothes and Anne of Green Gables. She is assertive and loves change as she learns to thrive in the chaos. Follow Kristy on her personal blog – This Hard Calling.

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  • Conni Phelps Staker says:
    September 21, 2015 at 9:15 am

    This is such an awesome thing you are doing . You truly are following our Lord’s commands and being his hands and feet in this world! I will pray for you as you willingly take on the pain of letting go. I will find a way to be used of God in this ministry. You are an inspiration to me!

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