Encouragement, Family Support, Foster ParentingApr. 15, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Finding Strength in the Sabbatical


Today, our family’s numbers are down.

Today, I catch myself when someone asks me how many kids I have. I quickly correct the count in my quiver because conversing about foster care isn’t topping the agenda.

Today I am breathing. And I am building my stamina. Again.

God is breathing new life as I simply sit. I am learning to say no to placement calls and yes to so much more. For today.

My arms have been so full of someone else’s child for many months. So I’m resting.

And in this sabbatical, I’m finding more than I imagined.

These revelations for me have come with time, space and tears.

So listen up foster mama friend.

Be Intentional with your Time

Before long, my four kids will turn into five (or six), but today I am choosing to see the ones before me. I am looking into the eyes of my children. Really looking. Completely seeing. Fully knowing.

I’m thanking God each morning for rest that was uninterrupted by another mama’s newborn. Long nights have left me fully operational exclusively in survival mode. I’m sipping my coffee slowly while I can.

I am reorganizing baby clothes and toddler toys and boxing up blankets and labeling tons of tupperware. Preparation for our next arrival is a constant companion.

Tell someone you need to catch your breath because accountability is critical to intentional retreat.

Set boundaries with your case workers. Be clear on when they can call again. And stop feeling guilty for all the work you’re NOT doing today.

It’s okay to say no for now.

Talk to a Professional

This single act has kept our family’s focus clear and our stride strong.

Let tears fall and words fly while you process your demanding days in a safe place.

Find a like-minded therapist that is experienced in attachment and transitions.

Please. I’m practically begging you to do this one.

More Home, Less Hustle

Clear your calendar.

Enjoy the slower moments without an extra paw in your pack. Say no to outside activities. Yes, even fun ones. I’m a sucker for fun, but it can add more stress and chaos than you really need today.

Be present with your people. They matter. And they need to see you. All of you.
Foster mama friend, sometimes you need to be still.

Don’t be fooled into thinking that this war raging around you is only of strong soldiers. It’s full of weak, weary and worn out warriors who MUST be brave enough to retreat.
A phone call is coming and battered little life will eventually find it’s way into your arms.
And into mine.

Soon our hands will hold someone else’s child.

But if you need a season of solitude, take it.

You don’t deserve it, but you need it. And refueling is a prerequisite to longevity in this calling.

Take respite for your family. Because they need you.

And as long as your lungs find breath, someone always will.


Kristy Sutton 10728970_10204594659119470_473726432_n

Kristy and Zach are biological parents to 4 beautiful kiddos under the age of 9. They have called 12 other babies their own since starting their journey as a foster family in the summer of 2012. They say yes to the hard and crazy as they follow Jesus on this journey of surrender and obedience. Kristy loves coffee, good conversation, comfy clothes and Anne of Green Gables. She is assertive and loves change as she learns to thrive in the chaos. Follow Kristy on her personal blog – This Hard Calling.

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