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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 18, 2016

Make a Difference Monday | Walking Through Foster Care & Adoption Loss

While driving to Red Robin on a date with my 9 year old Dayd, I could tell he wasn’t his jolly self. I couldn’t quite read his expression and for fear of driving off the road while trying, I determined to wait until we stopped. It was then that I could get a good look into his eyes. “What’s wrong buddy?” I asked. You see we had been discussing adoption and his birth parents a little bit before. Dayd looked away, leaned into the side of the car and the tears spilled out. Adoption starts with loss. Dayd came to […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 4, 2016

Make a Difference Monday | What’s the Point of All of This?

A majority of this blog’s content comes from the Empowered to Connect Training material. Danielle and I are certified trainers and will offer the course a couple of times in 2015 in the Austin area. What’s the point of all of this if you’re not going to let it change you?   – Francis Chan Far too often foster and adoptive parents focus all their attention on the change and healing that their child needs and ignore what needs to change in themselves. However, what you bring to the parent-child relationship matters—a lot.   We all bring, as parents, our own […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 21, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: Top 10 Characteristics of Successful Foster & Adoptive Families

As a supervisor for a program that licenses foster and adoptive families for children in state custody, I have had the privilege of working with many wonderful and caring families who desire to make a difference in the lives of children and youth. One part of the responsibilities that my staff and I carry is the assessment of prospective foster families. There are many tools and resources that we use to help us with this task, as well as one-on-one and group interaction with individuals. During our assessment process, we often look for several characteristics that lean towards the success […]

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Adoption, Foster ParentingDec. 4, 2015

Forgotten Friday: “Do you love them all the same?” And other such ridiculousness.

A light-hearted look into some of the things we think about the questions we hear. It’s a common thread running through the life of a foster family. The Questions. Questions no one would ever dare ask a “normal” family. Things like, “Where’d they come from?” Or, “I guess you can send them back if they’re too much trouble, right?” And, “Is that one yours?” Ninety-nine percent of the time any self-respecting foster momma, or adoptive momma is just going to grit her teeth, smile at you and then mentally smack you upside the head. We live our lives out loud in […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 23, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: Christmas Grace

It’s not even Thanksgiving. Today my eight-year old and I wrapped Christmas gifts for boys that don’t have a family. We love them dearly. Almost three years now they’ve been in the foster care system. Little Bitty is the only blood relative who is involved in their lives. This morning, MG and I finished her schoolwork early. An idea expanded on our way home from dropping Little Bitty at preschool. Like acrylics spreading across blank canvas, our strategy grew— the colors of our minds merging a plan to diligently finish a Grammar test so we could steal away to our […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 9, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: How I Describe the Kids {biological, adopted & foster} who Live in My House

If you are a foster parent, it can be tricky to describe your family as well as your kid count. Throw in the dynamics of short term placements, long term placements with a return home goal, or long term placements that are heading towards you (or someone else) adopting that child, and you may find yourself attempting various ways & terms to describe your family. A couple of years ago (after bumbling myself through the best way to describe how we sometimes had “extra” kids and a couple weeks later would have only “our” kids), I came up with a […]

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Adoption, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 2, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: 5 Surprising Reasons Why You Should Consider Fostering or Adopting

Earlier this year I wrote a blog, 9 Misguided Motives for Fostering or Adopting. I wrote that blog to caution people considering foster care or adoption to think through their motives. Why? Because foster care and/or adoption is hard and complex. Any child deserves for you to take the time to check your motives and count the cost. John M Simmons, author and adoptive parent, left a comment on that blog suggesting that I write about some reasons to foster and adopt. Yes, families should and need to put thought into how fostering and adopting will affect them. However, there are many […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysOct. 12, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: The good, the bad and the ugly

From my earliest of memories I always knew I wanted to become a foster/adoptive parent. I didn’t know where in my future that would lead me, but trusted God to provided the way.  Flash-forward to being a foster mom and adoptive parents for the past 5 years, I have relied heavily on the saying, I love you in the good, the bad, and the ugly. To understand this more comes from a deep relationship with the Lord.  My husband and I took a step in faith to break the birth order in our house, and felt called to adopt a teen. It […]

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Adoption, Foster ParentingJul. 13, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: For This Child I Prayed…

…And so it was that she, having waited long and endured patiently, realized and obtained what God had promised… ~Hebrews 6:15 My family’s story starts out many, many moons ago; 11,680 to be exact. That’s 32 years’ worth if you are good at quick math. I am not going to go into my adoption story in this post, but the story of how my husband and I were led to adopt our daughters. I was featured as a guest blogger over at “It’s Just Emmy” a few years ago to tell my story, so if you are interested, you can […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsJul. 10, 2015

Forgotten Friday: From ‘Foster Kid’ to ‘Pastor’s Kid’ {And the Change in Me}

It was a beautiful fall day….nice and sunny, and warm enough to still have all the windows in the house open. The three big kids were at school, Mike was at work, and I was enjoying a peaceful day at home–just me and the 16 month old. A quiet day of sorting, washing, and folding laundry. I brought up a basket of warm, clean clothes from the laundry room and dumped it onto the floor.  Charlie squealed and ran over to the pile and plopped right on top. He giggled, threw socks up in the air, and giggled some more. […]

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