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Aging Out Youth, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJan. 5, 2018

Forgotten Friday | 5 Things that Happen to Kids Who Age Out of Foster Care

Behind each stat is a young person whose life was disrupted by abuse and neglect.The statistic is alarming. Approximately twenty-thousand older children age out of the US foster care system per year. This means that 20,000 young adults ages 18-21 enter into the world without the stability that families bring. While the statistic is hard to hear, the truth about what can happen to these young adults is even more difficult. Here are some facts of what happens to kids who age out of foster care 1) Twenty percent of youth who were in foster care will become instantly homeless […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Foster Care Workers, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, Mentoring, Vulnerable Parents, Ways to ServeJun. 13, 2016

Make a Difference Monday | It’s Not the Thought That Counts

Today I asked a friend, “Does it count as a workout in the fact that I brought my gym bag with me but don’t actually workout?”  She giggled and as I sat thinking through that saying, “It’s the thought that counts,” I realized, of course the thought doesn’t count, my body isn’t changing in any way. The same is true in foster care.  So many people think about fostering or serving the foster care community, but if you think about it… If it were the thought that counted, there would be an abundance of foster care workers feeling encouraged and […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Education, Forgotten Fridays, Vulnerable ParentsJun. 10, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Everyone Has a Story: The Little Boy With No Name

My heart breaks every time I think about this little 8 year old boy who lives at the residential treatment center (RTC) in our community. The majority of the children living at the RTC are in (or have been in) foster care. Most of them have been in and out of up to 7 or 8 foster homes before coming to the RTC where they get 24 hour care in a therapeutic environment. Many of these kids have experienced trauma, abuse, and neglect in more extreme forms then those in traditional foster homes. Some have been in the RTC for […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Education, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Ways to ServeApr. 1, 2016

Forgotten Friday | When Children are Broken and Fatherless: A Call to Defend Them

I remember the girl who said to me, “I wish I had a normal life…” Her words pierced me through. It was a legitimate wish. Her life wasn’t normal, and I could convince neither her nor myself that it was. Instead of a home, she lived in a facility. I’d seen her room—the one that she’d sarcastically referred to as her jail cell. And to be fair to her, it did look like one—composed of nothing but a small bed and four concrete walls. But this was no jail, in the literal sense, as you or I would think of it. This […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 23, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: Christmas Grace

It’s not even Thanksgiving. Today my eight-year old and I wrapped Christmas gifts for boys that don’t have a family. We love them dearly. Almost three years now they’ve been in the foster care system. Little Bitty is the only blood relative who is involved in their lives. This morning, MG and I finished her schoolwork early. An idea expanded on our way home from dropping Little Bitty at preschool. Like acrylics spreading across blank canvas, our strategy grew— the colors of our minds merging a plan to diligently finish a Grammar test so we could steal away to our […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Ways to ServeOct. 30, 2015

Forgotten Friday: 102,000 children…

Did you know there are currently 102,000 children right here in the United States who are orphans? Did you know these children have a deep desire and longing to have a forever family to call their own?  Will you join us on Orphan Sunday to pray children, who are waiting all across the nation, into forever families?   Sign-Up to PRAY today!

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, UncategorizedJun. 5, 2015

Forgotten Friday: Juan.

The following was written about a year and a half ago after spending the morning on a courtroom bench waiting for my then-foster son’s case to be called. Can I tell you a story? Two weeks ago as I sat nervously awaiting our turn, I overheard a short conversation between a teenage boy and the case worker we have been working with. I giggled at what she said and was thankful for the brief moment of relief from the jitters I feel every time I sit waiting in the family court room in downtown Jacksonville. Like every other time, the […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Make a Difference Mondays, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 19, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: It’s Time to Come Out of the Box

Almost two years ago, I was giving a presentation to a group about the messages that fill the heads of children and youth in foster care. You’d be surprised just how many mixed messages fed to our children in care. One day, we’re saying “It’s not your fault.” The next day, we’re sending the message “You were bad and need to move. You’re too much for us to handle.” Another day, we say “We know you can do it. You have potential and strengths.” The next day, they hear “the odds are surely stacked against you and you’ll really never […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Foster ParentingDec. 5, 2014

Forgotten Friday: A Letter

Dear Foster Parent, I am the child in your home. I am the child who says and does things that melt your heart in one moment, but, I am also the child who amazes you with the ways I “act out” in the very next moment.   I am the kid who arrived at your door with only the emotional baggage I carry on the inside and the trash bag, in my hand, holding a few key items. I am the teenager who makes decisions you don’t understand, says things that hurt, and has an attitude beyond measure.  I am the […]

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Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten FridaysOct. 31, 2014

Forgotten Fridays: From the Children // Repost

Quotes from children who have experienced life in foster care… It is very hard in the foster care system. While living in these different places I had to transform myself and pretend to be someone I wasn’t in fear that I would be moved again and unloved. I felt like I was constantly moving, and never had a place to call home. I was always wondering when someone was going to give me a chance and not give up on me as everyone has. I felt voiceless because everyone made decisions for my life without asking what I wanted, and […]

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