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Advocacy, Advocate Wednesdays, Children in Foster Care, Foster ParentingAug. 27, 2014

Advocate Wednesday: In the Messiness

Hello from Bakersfield! It’s been a long time since I have written – here or anywhere (my personal blog has been completely neglected for many, many months). I guess life has gotten the best of me. It’s been the busiest, hardest season for our family and yet, I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. Nearly ten months ago our family said yes to a 13 month old foster baby. We agreed that we were “foster only” and if her case did not end in reunification, we would ask our agency to find her forever family. That was before we held […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysAug. 25, 2014

Make a Difference Monday: Something’s Breaking

Since my children were tiny, I’ve kept up with their funny sayings and questions, as a way to remember the stages of life and the cute things they’ve said along the way. Little Bitty has been with us almost eight months and I haven’t allowed my heart to open fully to her precious little sayings. Almost every week, we are hysterically laughing over something she’s said or done, but the fortress around my heart has many layers of thick stones. I think to myself, oh I will remember that and write it down later. But later never comes. Because I’m […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingAug. 22, 2014

Forgotten Friday: Georgia, Georgia….. Georgia on my mind…

I remember the first time I held this pudgy little baby. She was 8 months old. She rarely cried, almost always seemed content. Remember the email that was forwarded to me from a friend? She was one of the babies. I think it is so special, that at such a young age, two of my babies lived together. Never in a million years did I think this precious child would be mine. We provided respite for her foster mom several times between the time she was 8 months old to the time she was 22 months old. Her foster momma […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, Vulnerable ParentsAug. 18, 2014

Make a Difference Monday: 10 Ways Foster Families Can Love Birth Families

Jamie and I have done it wrong in so many ways. We’ve somehow become identified with our heart for birth family ministry, but we failed greatly when we thought we could do it all. That will work for one placment… Maybe two… But if you continue to walk this road child after child, family after family, year after year…you glance behind you to discover tens and tens of families running behind you, families with deep need. This is not a formula for long term discipleship and Gospel-centered friendship. Personally, we’ve devised a slow and steady progression for walking with our […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Care Workers, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsAug. 15, 2014

Forgotten Friday: (Re)Humanizing Foster Care

Foster care can be cold and sterile. Like courtrooms. Medicaid offices. Hospital waiting rooms. This is not to say foster care is boring and monotonous – it’s anything but that. It is to say, however, that the places foster care takes you and the demands it requires of you can sometimes feel more legal than relational and more painstaking than life changing. The humanity of foster care is often lost in the bureaucracy of foster care. In the midst of training hours, paperwork, court hearings and medicare appointments the fact that we are dealing with real people who have real […]

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Advocate Wednesdays, Children in Foster Care, Foster ParentingAug. 13, 2014

Advocate Wednesday: Lord, No, Not Another Goodbye

Lord, No, Not another Goodbye… I hate goodbyes. The phone rang at 1 am, as it has done many times before, the other end asking if ‘they’ could bring her. She came as others have come before her, with uniformed police officers, uncertain, curious, hungry, wondering what this would be like…yet it was very different this time. She was not the typical teenager who had had it out with her family. It was now 2 am and she was only 4 years old. Earlier that night, she had been sleeping; seemingly unaware of what was going on in the next […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysAug. 4, 2014

Make a Difference Monday: It’s Not About the Kids

Recently, I sat down to a planning meeting with a dear friend and partner in the foster care community. In the course of our conversation, a statement was made which got me thinking, “[This project] is all about helping the kids.” After a few weeks, the thinking wore off. And then it happened again. Sitting in a committee meeting at DHR someone made the comment, “[What we are doing] is all about the kids.” First let me say that I know these sentiments came from very good, very well-intentioned individuals that greatly impact foster care in and through my community. […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, UncategorizedJul. 8, 2014

Forgotten Friday: Become a Foster Parent to Help Kids (…your own)

On my blog we’ve been talking about the impact of foster care on your children (biological or adopted). Their needs and preferences are a serious consideration, which is why I’ve devoted a number of posts to identifying the concerns, looking at how to minimize the negative impacts of foster care and hearing the stories of those who grew up in families that fostered (Karen, Bianca and Beth). I don’t know what kind of a story my children will tell about growing up in our family. They may come to have resentments about the years we’ve spent fostering. Maybe they’ll wish […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Journey Bags, Make a Difference MondaysJun. 23, 2014

Make a Difference Monday: A Journey Bag Story

This story still gives me chills every time!  This is GOD at work through His children!!

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 6, 2014

Forgotten Fridays: For the Birthday Boy

Eighteen days from now, my youngest son turns 2. A son to whom I didn’t give birth. A son who entered our home as a foster placement when he was 3 1/2 weeks old. A son who is hilarious, spunky, sweet, and truly picked by God to be our son. A son who will someday have questions about his birthparents. Who will wonder why he didn’t leave the hospital with his mom after his birth. Who will wonder why he lived with two different relatives before he came to live with us. Will my little boy be able to grasp […]

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