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Children in Foster CareFeb. 20, 2015

Forgotten Friday: Inescapable Clouds

The sunshine, warmer temperatures and spring storms of May once brought me both into and out of some of my life’s most intense storms. Until I was 12 years old, I’d lived in a storm of abuse, alcoholism, domestic violence, and negativity that was my home – my family. I’d been introduced to sex too early in far too many experiences. I’d witnessed my father crack my mother’s head on a kitchen cabinet and tip a table full of our dinner over for one too few pork chops. I’d heard of my own worthlessness and stupidity more than I could […]

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Advocacy, Advocate Wednesdays, Children in Foster Care, Vulnerable ParentsFeb. 18, 2015

Advocate Wednesday: My Days as a Foster Care Intern

As an intern you do a lot of observing.  You have the opportunity to sit back and watch as every piece of the puzzle is laid out.  When I stepped into juvenile court for the first time I was unprepared for what was to happen before me.  I had read many different stories about court experiences and each one has made me tear up and my heart ache.  The tears, the pain, the broken hearts that come from those court rooms are a lot to take in. In the beginning of my internship, I was introduced to a young teenage boy […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 16, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: So you want to adopt from foster care

When people tell me they are considering adoption as a way to grow their family, I encourage them to consider adopting from foster care. There are a lot of benefits to adopting from foster care. It is essentially free and there are many kids in need of loving families. You can have access to lots of information about their medical history, in many states you live with them for six months before your adoption can actually be made legal (so you know them pretty well), and there are options for both open adoptions or adoptions that are more closed (“open” and […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Care Workers, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 9, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: For My Fellow Child Welfare Professionals & Foster Families

I watched out the window as one foster family loaded three little ones into their car, spent time talking to the other foster family, and eventually drove off.  I thought to myself, “I bet those children have no idea that the family who has tucked them in bed the last few months of their lives will no longer be tucking them in.” I do not blame the foster family – life happens, situations lean themselves to not being a good match, often trauma is so intense that it does not create a safe situation, and after all, we are all […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten FridaysFeb. 6, 2015

Forgotten Friday: Three Different Girls, Three Very Different Lives

Originally posted on Jami’s personal blog on January 18th, 2012 At 11:30 this afternoon, I drove over to my little girl’s school – signed myself in and walked up behind her. “Hey there!” I whispered. Turning around, she squealed, Mommy!! and threw her arms around me! We were going on a field trip! I love field trips – not because of the event itself – or the squirming children – or the headache that often hits me right in the middle of the experience! – I love field trips because I get to spend that one on one time with […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 2, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: From Buster B.

From Buster B (used with her permission) She’s nine. I met her six months ago. In an instant she was asked to move into a stranger’s home and leave every, single thing she knew behind. There were no answers to her questions. No reasoning for her why’s. In a moment she was expected to adjust and adapt once again, and everyone told her how grateful she must be to have a safe home like the Lumpkins. And she stuffed her dismay down deep, pushed her desires to grasp and understand below her ability to survive. There are moments when I’ve […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Care Workers, Foster ParentingJan. 30, 2015

Forgotten Friday: Plans are for Sissies

If you know me, you know my life revolves around plans. Being a teacher, my daily life is planned out weeks in advance. I have very carefully planned out my personal life, too. Mike and I were married while I was on winter break in college. Nine months later I got pregnant. Nine months later I had Levi two weeks after the spring semester ended. Nine months later I got pregnant with Luke. Nine months later he was born the day after I graduated from college. Mike got a little nervous about baby #3, so 11 months later we got […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 26, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: Fitting it All Together

…as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal. (2 Cor 4:18) Nose to nose. We sway rhythmically into our nightly routine in the soft-lit room– the bathroom light illuminating our faces. Long shadows on the walls. Pink bed and covers. Red-and-white striped 3T Christmas pajamas in October. I choose my battles and a reindeer-clad Little Bitty hums into my chest. Her face tilts up as she asks, Will you sing the words? The shape of […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Care Workers, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 22, 2015

Forgotten Friday: God in the Midst

The LORD your God is in your midst; he is a warrior who can deliver. He takes great delight in you; he renews you by his love; he shouts for joy over you. – Zephaniah 3:17 Recently, a foster-mother came into my office, shut the door, sat down, and started weeping over a decision, or lack thereof, regarding her foster child with-whom she has had since the child was a newborn.  This foster-mother has experience with the system and usually “rolls with the punches”, but this time, she was absolutely wiped out emotionally. With puffy eyes and thick tears, she told me how […]

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Advocacy, Aging Out Youth, Children in Foster Care, Make a Difference Mondays, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 19, 2015

Make a Difference Monday: It’s Time to Come Out of the Box

Almost two years ago, I was giving a presentation to a group about the messages that fill the heads of children and youth in foster care. You’d be surprised just how many mixed messages fed to our children in care. One day, we’re saying “It’s not your fault.” The next day, we’re sending the message “You were bad and need to move. You’re too much for us to handle.” Another day, we say “We know you can do it. You have potential and strengths.” The next day, they hear “the odds are surely stacked against you and you’ll really never […]

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