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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJan. 13, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Their Hearts Matter

“Guard your heart,” they said. I almost bought into it too… …and I understand where they’re coming from. Protect my heart. It’s the only way. Love half-way so that my heart can’t break. If I don’t let myself love this guy with all the love in my heart, there is less of a chance that I’ll hurt in the end. I know they’re just worried about us, worried that our hearts will break. They love us, they don’t want to see us in pain. This little man who we have fallen so deep for… To think about him leaving… is […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 9, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | The Weight of Saying “No”

Today, I am a foster mom who is overwhelmed; brought to tears and on my knees in prayer. I have spit-up on my sweater; I haven’t gotten a full night’s sleep in 7 months, and I’m holding a crying baby as I type. But these things aren’t the reason for my tears; they do not play a role in my broken heart. Why the sadness? Why the heavy heart when all in my life appears to be going so well? Because two weeks ago I said “no.” No to the phone call asking us if we’d like to adopt two […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, ReunificationJan. 6, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Foster Kids Don’t Have Birthparents

Yesterday I was driving my six kids to a foster parent training class when one of my children said, “I want to see that Kung Fu Panda movie. The one where he finds his REAL dad.” I felt my stomach tighten and I locked eyes with my oldest child in the rearview mirror and I heard him mumble, “Oh boy” because he knew exactly what speech was coming and what questions the child who said “real dad” would have to answer. I know it’s just a movie and these are just pretend panda relationships, but in our family we have […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 30, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Pennies, Pennies Everywhere

We recently sat in the dark theatre watching Disney’s latest movie Frozen. At one point, my 4-year old foster son made his way to my side, frightened. Scene after scene I held him, sitting like that well past the point of scary snow monsters and ice-filled fury. And then there came a part in the movie where they start talking about true love—where they mention that it means loving another person and thinking and caring for them first. (Little things like that touch me deep these days. Most things do when your heart is being daily stretched and hammered and […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 26, 2016

Make A Difference Monday | No Two Foster Families Look the Same

What Could Your Family Look Like? The trouble with stereotypes is that they rarely are accurate. My idea of the stereotypical foster family was one who always had about six foster kids in their home. Their home arranged half warehouse, half dormitory style. And, of course they drove a van constantly full and on the go. Granted, many foster families DO look like that, and that’s great! I admire and respect these families, both the parents and biological children, who welcome foster kids into their home either for a few days or sometimes a few years at a time. However, sometimes this […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 23, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Pass It On

“Do you know why we give presents at Christmas?” I asked L., my foster child. “So everybody can see our stuff.” Sigh.  “Let’s try this again.” I think Christmas is one of the toughest and most wonderful times to be a parent. It’s tough because everything around your kid is screaming the selfish “more, me, gimme.” It’s wonderful because there are so many opportunities to talk about Jesus. Shopping with a 5-year-old child is tough. I generally avoid it whenever possible, jetting through the grocery store on my lunch break or picking up prescriptions right before I go to the […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 19, 2016

Make a Difference Monday | A Decade of Hope

Her story is not simple.  In fact, it’s pretty complicated.  Ten years can hold alot.  Abandonment, abuse, neglect, trauma, and a life on the brink of death has turned into love, grace, healing and restoration.  God has had His hand on her life since she was breathed into existence.  My faith is so weak, I often question why He would allow the things she has suffered.  Abandoned at six weeks, with roach bites covering her tiny body, she was taken into custody, and nursed back to health.  She was loved, nurtured, and experienced quick healing with a foster mother who […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 16, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Four Things Every Child in Foster Care Needs this Christmas

(This article originally appeared on Adoption.com.) This can be an extra rough time for kids separated from their birth families. Being in foster care is difficult; especially during the holiday season. Christmas can bring up a whole host of emotions in children and youth who have found themselves caught up in the child welfare system. Foster parents may experience a variety of emotions and behaviors during this time of year. Although these things are expected and understandable, there are things that foster families and others can do to help these kids still have a merry Christmas Here are four things […]

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Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 9, 2016

Forgotten Friday | I am not cut out for this

Some days I’m jealous. Our foster son has been in our home and our hearts for 365 days. He was 17 days old when we picked him up, and I would be lying if I said these past 17 days haven’t been sopping in jealousy. Reflecting on the days of his life before I knew him has been uniquely joyful and grievous. I wish I could have been there on his birthday; I wish I could have held him close in his first moments and watched him take his first breath. I wish I could have gotten to know him […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsDec. 2, 2016

Forgotten Friday | 3 Reasons Not to Vilify My Kid’s Birth Mother

There’s often an assumption that since our children are adopted, or have been adopted from the foster care system, their birth mothers must be bad people, or have done some really bad stuff. The truth is, this is an unfair assumption to make about a human being. We’ve often wondered how someone, who knows very little about our children, their story, or their birth mother’s story, can point a finger and judge. It’s not in our DNA to do this to any human being. Certainly not the person who gave our children life. We believe birth mom’s should never be vilified. Here […]

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