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Children in Foster Care, Education, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 10, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Understanding Reactive Attachment Disorder

Our kids (both adopted from foster care) have Reactive Attachment Disorder. Kids with RAD engage in intense power struggles with their caregivers because they have learned their previous caregivers didn’t do a good job of meeting their needs. For our kids, here’s what these power struggles look like: If we give our kids a two-step instruction, they do the second step before they do the first step. If we ask them to put on their coat before school, they’ll put on their backpack instead. I laid out a lightweight coat for my daughter last week during our 50-60 degree weather […]

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Children in Foster Care, Education, Forgotten FridaysOct. 27, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Why Won’t Your Foster or Adopted Child Look You in the Eyes?

My son is just now beginning to look me in the eyes when I talk to him. He is almost seven and has been in our family for six years. Sometimes I gently hold his cheek and ask him to look at me. He seems to try, but he looks at the ceiling, to either side, glances at my eyes for a split second, then quickly looks away. I feel sadness rather than anger or frustration. My father heart longs for his trust; for him to feel safe with me. As I said, he is looking into my eyes now […]

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Education, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingOct. 20, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Speaking back to the stereotypes of foster parents

I came across this video on the interwebs made by What Would You Do?, one of those hidden camera shows that stages scenarios in order to see what kind of reaction they receive from onlookers. This particular staged situation portrays foster parents as greedy people only in foster care for the money who treat their foster kids as second-class children. The video is a little over eight minutes long, but it took me about 20 minutes to watch; I had to walk away a few times because it made me so mad. Here are three reasons why I take issue […]

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Children in Foster Care, Education, Make a Difference MondaysAug. 14, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | What is Therapeutic Foster Care?

When a child enters the foster care system in the United States, often the child’s functional, emotional, and behavioral needs are not fully known at initial placement. After the needs of the child are determined and if the child is in need of a higher level of care, the child may be referred to what is called “therapeutic foster care.” In some states and agencies, this may also be referred to as “specialized homes,” or “treatment foster care.” Sometimes, when people hear the word “therapeutic,” they think it refers to medical foster care. While some of the children in therapeutic […]

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Education, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysApr. 17, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Ten Ways to Prepare to be a New Foster Parent

Foster parenting is an experience unlike any other, and it is one that requires steadfastness, resilience, and love. You have finally decided to make the jump into foster parenting. Foster parenting is a tough calling and will take you through the complex beast that is child welfare, but it is also one that will teach you many life lessons. Here are tips to help you prepare. 1. Read, listen, and ask. Read as much as you can about fostering: Read it all—the good, the bad, and all of it in the middle. Foster parenting blogs are one exceptional way to […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Education, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMar. 31, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Are You Afraid of Your Child’s Big Emotions?

The first few years of our marriage I didn’t attune well to my wife’s emotions—especially when she got excited about something. As an expressive person, she jumped, laughed, ran around, and screamed with excitement—all while I stood with a simple smile on my face and would say, “That’s great honey.” That response, or lack thereof, always threw a wet blanket on her excitement. I definitely wasn’t attuned to her emotions. Then we got a little guy who also has big emotions. Some of this is his personality, no doubt. But most kids from a hard place come to us with […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Education, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Ways to ServeFeb. 17, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Why Will the Church Not Respond to the Call?

Take a look at this graphic from Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO). Please look carefully. The top number represents the number of children waiting in foster care in that state that can be adopted. The bottom number represents the number of churches in that state. What does it say to you? One way to please God is to care for orphans. God shares a few sure-fire ways to please him, and caring for orphans is one of them. And the way I read His Word where He talks about caring for orphans, it’s not a suggestion. He usually says it […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Education, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, ReunificationFeb. 3, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Foster Children Need the Church

One of the bravest women I know is the woman who gave birth to my son. She was young, it was her first child, her life was unstable, and she hadn’t made all the best decisions up to that point. In fact, some of her decisions would have lasting consequences for her and her unborn child. Yet she remains one of the most courageous women I know, because she let this little one grow inside her, not knowing what the future would hold. When it would have been perhaps “in her best interest” or “more convenient” to visit the abortion […]

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Advocacy, Education, Family Support, Uncategorized, Ways to ServeNov. 29, 2016

Redefining #GivingTuesday

#GivingTuesday is a global day of giving following Thanksgiving, Black Friday and Cyber Monday. Often the focus of #GivingTuesday financial donations, but this year we want to switch things up.  Will you redefine #GivingTuesday with us and give the gift of your time to the foster care community? Below are some simple ways of giving and SHOWING JESUS to the foster care community in your area! Give of your time to a foster family–they will be blessed and you will, too! Ideas include: Drop off a freezer meal or restaurant gift cards Write a note of encouragement Offer to pick up and […]

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Education, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 7, 2016

Make a Difference Monday | 15 Things I’d Change from My First Year of Foster Parenting

It has been said that hindsight is always 20/20. As I look back, 12 years into the past, to our first year as foster parents, there are some things I would change if I had the chance. I was driving my oldest son to school a few mornings ago when he began to ask me questions about the first few months he lived with us. I began to reminisce with him. It was the summer of 2004, it was hot, I was busy working full-time, traveling a lot, and we had little to no clue what we were getting ourselves into. […]

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