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Category: Encouragement

Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 20, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Foster Care Means More

Foster Care means more mouths to feed more hineys to wipe more fingernails to clip. It means another car seat to buckle another nose to wipe another body to bathe. Foster care means more visits to the doctor more appointments to keep more gas in the car. It means more laundry more dishes more sweeping more working. It means more vomit more snot more tangles more poop more pee. It is more agencies to deal with more systems to navigate more people in your business more government to answer to. Foster care means more uncertainty more desperation more complication more […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMar. 10, 2017

Forgotten Friday | 5 Deescalation Tips for Moms of Kids who Rage

The other night I got to speak to a group of potential foster parents who were just about to finish their training classes. They had really great questions about the realities of foster care and a realistic understanding that training classes are just not able to address all the potential scenarios you’ll run into as a foster parent. One woman asked a great question about how you deescalate kids who are really angry. Over our years working with kids from toddlers to teens we have found what works and what doesn’t when dealing with angry children. I want to share […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 20, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | A Daily Funeral

I have to listen to an audiobook or podcast while I do housework, or I’ll get distracted. Or sometimes I’ll just put on a soundtrack and sing every role of a Broadway show. (Don’t mind me, neighbors! I’m just in here defying some gravity while I load the washing machine!) On the afternoon of Easter Sunday in 2011, I was listening to audiobook about adoption. As various people shared their thoughts on the subject, one shared that she would struggle connecting the same way with an adopted child as she would with a biological child. I remember thinking to myself, […]

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Encouragement, Family Support, Make a Difference Mondays, Ways to ServeFeb. 13, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | 7 Things Foster Parents Need You to Know

When you become a foster family, it is fantastic to have a community that supports you. I’ve written posts before on the physical ways you can support a foster family, but there’s another aspect of all this I want to address. When you have a foster family in your church, extended family, neighborhood, etc. there is a little bit of education that may be helpful. You may not have time to make a meal or the money to run out and buy diapers as a welcome gift for this new child, but if you’ve got a few minutes I’m going […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 6, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Help! I’m Fostering A Teenager Who Pushes Me to the Edge

One of the most difficult aspects of foster parenting is caring for teenagers who have come from difficult places. The many issues that come with this territory can be too much to handle at times. But, there are a few key ways to parent with success. I could feel hear heartache through the words in her email. With each line I read, my heart sank a little deeper for her. A single mother in her 60s. Forty years deep into the journey of foster care. More than 200 children through her home in that time. If anything I should have […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJan. 27, 2017

Forgotten Friday | The Night My Son Finally Woke Me Up

photo credit: The Full Moon of Glen Ellyn via photopin (license) I was somewhere in between that deep sleep of the deprived and the alert sleep of the maternal. I lay there silently and I couldn’t remember the last time I had slept through the night. I heard it again. A quiet, faint “mom.” Over and over. Several times to the point that I sat up in bed. Just the fact that he’s calling me “mom” is a wonderment. For the longest of times, I was a stranger and then a familiar, safe person. I was a caretaker and then […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 23, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | What is Foster Care Like?

Multiple times over the past two years, people have shyly asked “What is foster care like?” Mostly, the people asking were considering foster care themselves. And they needed to hear the good, the bad and the ugly before they jumped in any deeper. I understand how they felt. I wanted the same thing when we were praying through the enormous, life changing decision; someone on the inside to bare their soul and lay it all out there for consideration. It helps take the edge of the unknown. What is foster care like? Foster care is letting go of life as […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 2, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Happy New Year {Hey Moms. Let’s not judge.}

Last New Year’s Eve, we sat around our dinner table and each took turns creating goals for ourselves, and for our family—well, except for our little one. He’s a bit too young to determine goals. For him, the goal might have been to eat more candy, and I’m pretty sure he did just that (aka: parent fail). Anyway, after deciding what we should work on for the coming year, I sealed up the slip of paper in an envelope titled, “Family Goals” and stuck it on the refrigerator. There it stayed for the last year—no one thought about it, looked at […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 30, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Pennies, Pennies Everywhere

We recently sat in the dark theatre watching Disney’s latest movie Frozen. At one point, my 4-year old foster son made his way to my side, frightened. Scene after scene I held him, sitting like that well past the point of scary snow monsters and ice-filled fury. And then there came a part in the movie where they start talking about true love—where they mention that it means loving another person and thinking and caring for them first. (Little things like that touch me deep these days. Most things do when your heart is being daily stretched and hammered and […]

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Encouragement, Prayer, Uncategorized, Will You Pray WednesdayNov. 23, 2016

Will You Pray Wednesday | TFI Prayer Letter

Dear Partners in Prayer, 2 Corinthians 1:20 tells us For all the promises of God find their Yes in Him. That is why we utter the Amen through Him, to the glory of God. When it comes to comparing the promises of man with the promises of God, the fact is that man’s promises are often fleeting and unfulfilled, even when given with good intentions. Broken people break promises. What we hope is a “yes” becomes a “no” resulting in discouragement and loss of hope and trust. This is especially true for those in the world of foster care. However, […]

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