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Advocacy, Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 30, 2017

Forgotten Friday | The American Mission Field

We spent some time last week with a few missionaries. They were at church as part of an annual celebration of support and awareness for worldwide missions. We met in small groups for a picnic and some shared personal stories from their ministries. A question was posed to one of the missionaries, “What is your greatest need right now?” The answer didn’t amaze me, it actually affirmed my suspicions–native workers. This guy was from a foreign country and his greatest need was for his own people to become aware of and respond to the needs in their very community. That’s […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Family Support, Foster ParentingJun. 23, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Water

Twelve and fourteen… that’s how many years it took these two beautiful kiddos to gain more life experience, faith and wisdom than this mama has gained in thirty three years. Five days…that’s how long it took them to turn my life and my heart upside down. No, not upside down…right side up! One month ago they sat, waited and wondered…half an hour from their home as water seeped through the doors and windows and filled its halls and rooms, taking most of their material belongings, drowning their homework, clothes, furniture, memories… “It’s a total loss…” Those are the words their […]

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Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJun. 19, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Sometimes It’s the Parent Who Needs to Regulate

Isn’t it a shock when you see yourself on video? Often we say, “I didn’t know I looked or sounded like that.” We aren’t aware of our tone, our posture, our facial expressions, or even how we communicate our emotions. Part of self-awareness is recognizing that what we think or feel on the inside doesn’t always translate accurately through our voice, emotions, and actions. Or do they? Remember Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood? I can hear him now singing his simple greeting song: “It’s a beautiful day in this neighborhood. It’s a beautiful day for a neighbor. Could you be mine? Would […]

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Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 16, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Don’t Ever Forget That {words for parents of special needs kids}

Oh, boy. There is nothing like being at a busy and popular outdoors store (aka: the “big” Bass Pro Shop) and dealing with a very defiant, loud, and just plain out-of-control four-year-old. Wowza. Directives were given. Choices were offered. Still yet, the force was quite strong with this one, today. Because I am the parent and he is the child, I gave him one last warning, “If you do not hold my hand and stay with me, you and I will have to go to the van.” And, boom. He’s off. Throwing a major, cataclysmic style of meltdown for all […]

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Encouragement, Family Support, Foster Care Affects on Kids Already in Your Home, Make a Difference MondaysJun. 12, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | How To Help Typically Developing Children Cope With Raising a Non-Typical Child

One of the biggest issues adoptive parents face, is helping typically-developing children cope with the struggles and behaviors of non-typically developing children. But there is a way to find balance. When our first daughter was born, everything was just as it should be. She was full-term. Her birth-mom did not drink or smoke or use drugs. She took her pre-natal vitamins and ate a healthy diet. Our daughter was placed in our arms just minutes after birth. From the moment she entered the world, all was right. She developed appropriately. She walked and talked on time. She ate all the […]

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Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsJun. 2, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Bio mom.

We all come to the table with ideas, assumptions and prejudices. Whether we like it or not. When I met my foster son’s biological mother nine months ago, I stood back. Stayed back intentionally. Fears and questions filled my head and my heart. Allowing polite civility but not warm friendship. I was cautious. ​Time changes things though. And time has changed me and changed our relationship. Now, we go in for a hug after she has a visit with Big D. I don’t block my number on days we call her to check in. And when she asks me to […]

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Encouragement, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMay. 29, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | How My Friends Taught Me to Grieve

I sat down to write something today, but then the doorbell rang. It was a delivery for my family of an edible bouquet. Seriously, is there anything better than something beautiful and also edible that comes as a total surprise from people who love you? So here I sit with tears about the sweet ways my friends have stepped up and loved my family well and instead of whatever it was I thought I might write today, this is what I want to tell you about. My family has been through a tough time the last few months which culminated […]

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Encouragement, Family Support, Make a Difference MondaysApr. 3, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Foster Mama, Find Your People

Having six kids under the age of ten is strangely similar to living life in a petri dish. There are simply not enough Clorox wipes to touch every snot-smothered surface during this time of year. Between public school, daycare and the church nursery, we are maxed out on the merging of germs. DONE. We have surely met our medical deductible for the year and it’s only March. I have a parking spot and exam room with our family’s name on it reserved at the local pediatrician’s office. I’m lying about that but we should, just sayin’. We have been friends […]

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Advocacy, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 27, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | A {Locked Out} Lesson

Sometimes, you need to be thankful for the silver lining within the chaos. Today, I’m simply thankful that Charlie chose to lock me out of the house AFTER the adoption specialist was here, as opposed to being locked out when she arrived! (Do you know how tricky it is to continually switch from a stern discipline voice to a sickening sweet voice in the hopes you can convince a 3 year old to open either of the doors he has locked? A threat of putting ALL his M&M’s in the garbage finally did the trick.) I often post about foster […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Ways to ServeFeb. 24, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Stop Confusing Your Calling with His Commands

As I grew into adulthood, I often wondered, prayed about, wrestled with and sought counsel over my calling. I looked to the lives of so many valiant souls that crossed my unsettled path for direction and motivation. What was I going to do with my life? What was my calling? My calling? My calling? That word was so weighted and I felt trapped. I thought there was a right or wrong decision. The process of discerning my next steps–all of my steps–felt final. Then the what ifs followed. What if I chose the wrong calling? What if I wasn’t hearing […]

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