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Adoption, Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, ReunificationDec. 28, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Letting Go

Sometimes when you love something so much you have to let it go. Sometimes life requires you to do hard, painful things because of a love so deep you have for a person. This is where my heart is right now, loving something so fiercely that I have chosen to say goodbye. In just a few short weeks we will say goodbye to E and his brother and I know it’s the best possible decision for them and us, but saying goodbye still isn’t going to be easy. When the boys came back into care in December we knew the […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 21, 2018

Forgotten Friday | No Room in the Inn: An Advent Reflection of a Foster Mom

“And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths and laid him in a manger because there was no place for them in the inn.” Luke 2:7 I’ll be honest here. I have been avoiding writing this blog the last few days. Why? I didn’t want to dampen the Christmas spirit writing about the plight of foster kids. Sounds cowardly? Maybe. But I can’t avoid it any longer. I need to write about it. I woke up this morning to a voicemail asking me if I have room for a sibling set of four kids […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsDec. 14, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Life After Adoption: She Misses Them

Not long ago, I was putting our little Layla to bed when she began asking me about her birth parents. “When am I going to see them again?” “I don’t know honey,” is all I could answer at first. “I know it’s really hard but you have to trust Mommy and Daddy, ’cause we love you and we are here to protect you and keep you safe. We also want to do what is healthy for you and we don’t feel it is healthy for you right now to see your Birth Mommy and Birth Daddy.” She seemed to take […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Care Affects on Kids Already in Your Home, Foster ParentingDec. 7, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Foster HOPE

“Why did you decide to do foster care?” the case worker asked me on the Monday after our first weekend with a child in our home. “Well, we have room in our home and love in our hearts” is the answer that I gave that day, and it’s the answer that I give today if most people ask. It’s easy, and it’s fairly honest. But about a million times a day, I have to keep coming back to the rest of the story, the other unspoken reasons for why we are foster parents. Because about a million times a day, […]

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Adoption, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 30, 2018

Forgotten Friday | This Gift Called Adoption

Nearly 12 years ago, I was a young mom of one. Paige, still an infant, was lying on my bed while I folded laundry and listened to a radio interview of an adoptive family sharing their story. I felt a tug in my spirit and fear gripped my heart. “Oh Lord, I hope you are not trying to tell me something.” Adoption scared me. It was unknown. It was not my dream. It was not my plan…well, unless we couldn’t have biological children. That’s what we said at least. But God. Slowly, we became more aware of this thing called […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 23, 2018

Forgotten Friday | A Hasty Decision and the Next Big Thing

October 2015. 10:20 p.m. The baby monitor lights up as I’m finally crawling into bed next to my husband. I try to ignore its red flashes. I only put her down an hour ago. How is this happening already? I try telling myself that she’s just having a bad dream, that she’ll calm herself down and go back to sleep. I know she won’t. Her sleep is becoming more fitful each evening. As her cries continue, I carry my pillow and blanket down the hall and camp out beside her crib for what feels like the hundredth night in a […]

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Adoption, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 16, 2018

Forgotten Friday | From Orphan to Co-Heir

There is a type of adoption, a compassionate offering, where a mom chooses something different for her child. She places her baby in the loving care of another family, wrapped in a prayer of hope for the future. I have witnessed this up close, in the life of a dear friend, and there are few things more selfless and beautiful. Sometimes the brokenness of divorce leads to adoption. A blending of families creates the opportunity for step-parents to love and raise children as their “own.” I have experienced this and am very thankful for those relationships. Out of God’s great […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 9, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Congrats.

A beautiful sixteen-year-old walked into our lives and home on Monday night. Like every other child who has been placed with us, she didn’t want to move. But here she is. Here we all are. Trying to figure out life together as strangers under one roof. As needed, we let friends and colleagues know we have a new foster child. After hearing our update, a neighbor shot me a friendly “Congrats!” and looked to me for a response. Crickets. I. Couldn’t. Say. Anything. I know she meant well, but I also know foster care and the pain and sadness that […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 2, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Behind Closed Doors

Have you ever held a broken child in your arms as they cried out for their mommy, hoping, wishing, praying you could do anything to take the pain away? Have you ever tried brushing the teeth of a 2-year- old who screamed in pain because every tooth was decayed due to the neglect they faced at the very hands of their own parents? Have you ever had to sit down two children, both under the age of 5, and explain to them how their mommy is in jail and you have no idea when she’ll be out? Each and every […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsOct. 26, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Walking Through Adoption Loss

While driving to Red Robin on a date with my 9-year-old, I could tell he wasn’t his jolly self. I couldn’t quite read his expression and for fear of driving off the road while trying, I determined to wait until we stopped. It was then that I could get a good look into his eyes. “What’s wrong, buddy?” I asked. You see, we had been discussing adoption and his birth parents a little bit before. He looked away, leaned into the side of the car and the tears spilled out. Adoption starts with loss. This child came to us as […]

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