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Forgotten FridaysAug. 17, 2012

Forgotten Friday: from the heart of a caseworker

Sometimes it hurts bad. So bad. You wish you could take their pain away, and you would sacrifice anything to make that happen….. Today, I was transporting an 11 year old boy, who has experienced more abandonment in his life than what I can hardly wrap my mind around. He was in the foster system when he was younger, was adopted, and as of last fall is back in the system from his adoptive family. Yes, an disruptive adoption for physical abuse. He then moved in with a relative foster mother, who this spring, said she couldn’t handle him anymore, […]

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Forgotten FridaysJul. 13, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: Anything but Natural

We recently signed our renewal contract as foster parents. There’s a line in the agreement that states, “The foster parent will care for the placed child as he or she would care for other children in his or her home.” I was talking with Baby J’s social worker, and she was asking various questions about how things were going, and I remarked, “You know, foster parenting is one of the most unnatural things you can do.” “What do you mean?” she asked. My heart’s response: In this season, I am his mother, her mother. I’ve agreed to care with my […]

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Forgotten FridaysJul. 6, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: "My Foster Parent Faith Walk"

After our third child was born, Mike and I made a decision–if God called us to have any more children, we would adopt.  After several years of prayer, we knew our calling: foster and adopt a local child. We have now been licensed foster parents for over two years. So, how many kids now live in our home? Three–the same three we’ve always had. Here we sit, our family of five, and wonder if we chose the right path. Used the right agency. Made the right decision. Billboards screamed “Foster Kids are Our Kids!” The tears welled, my heart ached, […]

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Forgotten FridaysJun. 29, 2012

Forgotten Friday’s: It is only a season…It is all a gift (my current mantra)

This life, this season, where I am right now…I have a tendency to bless it and curse it in the same breath. The other day, I was walking into the CPS office with my kids – foster and adopted – so they (fosters) could have a bio visit. There was a little boy crying and crying, his foster dad was stoically putting him in the car while the boy’s bio mom stood behind the dad and cried. The boy kept saying, “I don’t wanna leave!” I thought, I hate this place. Hate that I know these things happen, and by […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 23, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: Foster parenting

As I’m writing, I’m looking out over a crystal clear pool of water with palm trees swaying in the distance. Vacations are a wonderful gift from God — a time to slow down, refocus, and refresh. This time away from our kids has also made me very contemplative. We have six children at home, three of whom we are fostering. I live with the reality that three of “my” children I have to hold more loosely than the others. With three of them, I have to be more cautious with my words. I cannot tell them, “I am your mommy […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 22, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: the final goodbye

Lisa stayed home with Thomas, who suffered from a stomach ailment this morning. I took the others to church. Mary and I headed to the sanctuary, while Luke walked the foster daughters to their class. A few minutes later, Luke stood beside our aisle with the youngest of them, Jennifer. “She wanted to come sit with you,” he said. This seemed especially odd to me since she loved her class and had never missed it to sit through a sermon-a fiercely independent child, who at least to this point, maintained a much greater affinity with the wife I left behind. […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 15, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: From a Foster Mama’s Heart

It’s the birthday of their arrival, and the anniversary of a journey for me. One year ago today the girls moved in. One year ago, we were entrusted with two souls to be the incarnation of Christ to. It was five minutes before the first lie was told. Ten minutes before the first tantrum thrown, but I made it a full hour before the first doubt of, What have we done? crept into my limited mind. Little has changed on the girls’ surface. The lies abound more than the truths, and I’m told I’m hated because I’m not mother. But […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster Care WorkersJun. 1, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: From the Perspective of a Caseworker

A caseworker’s job is heartbreaking, challenging, and can be extremely overwhelming.  We encourage you to read today’s post by Jenna – a worker in the trenches – as she shares her heart with us!  To those of you who serve children and their families in this way, we honor and appreciate you!  ~ TFI Last week, I got a call from my supervisor saying I was receiving a new case. There is always an anxiety that overwhelmes me the minute I am assigned a new case. It means there is a child in my community that has been neglected or abused, […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMay. 25, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: from the perspective of a foster Dad

Two Worlds Collide The boys were playing with the little girls on the swing set as I finally arrived home from work. It was my first full day back since surgery five weeks earlier. Immediately Luke came in and wanted to throw the baseball, while Thomas asked for a quick ride to the bookstore. I told the elder to grab my glove and hobbled to the backyard. As I walked out, I assured Thomas we would make time for books later. I noticed the girls clamoring for attention, but hardly spoke as I brushed past them. We threw for a […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMay. 18, 2012

Forgotten Fridays: From the Perspective of a Foster Mama

Mother’s Day is a day that brings a lot of mixed emotions for me. If it weren’t for the work of 3 other women, I wouldn’t be celebrating. In fact, I would probably be very depressed. I love celebrating with my kiddos and I love seeing them grow and change just like any other mother. However, as a foster/adoptive mom, there are 3 other women who had that role before me. Sometimes I like to use my imagination and pretend like I have had each one since the beginning so that I could shield them(and myself) from any hurt or […]

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