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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJul. 19, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: Do. Right.

Originally posted on Friday, December 28, 2012 I’ve been struck with a perspective adjustment recently- the “rightness” of our actions doesn’t mean the outcome will be pleasant.  I was thinking about this as I read through a fellow adoptive mama’s words of grief about a child who has chosen to reject her love.  Does that mean it was wrong to adopt him?  I thought about it again with a friend who is loving a baby for just a brief moment of potentially days or weeks before Baby lands in her permanent home.  This will be an act of love and […]

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Advocacy, Forgotten FridaysJul. 12, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: What will you do when they cry?

I sat on my front porch this morning and gave many thanks to God.  Thanksgivings for my family, my mentors and close friends, for every Advocate that has joined with TFI to serve the foster care community and so many more. And yet there are still times when I feel lonely, down, and hurting.  Sometimes I feel misunderstood or unappreciated.  I know I’m not alone in this.  I remember one particular evening when I was really struggling.  I fell on my face and cried out “God if you are real, then show up now!”  It wasn’t long before the Lord reminded me […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Vulnerable ParentsJun. 28, 2013

Forgotten Friday’s: When the Church Loves the Vulnerable

I remember when the Lord first opened my eyes to the foster care world.  It was November 2009 and my heart broke as I watched a video of a 6 year old girl who was waiting for a foster home to be found for her.  The worker sat with her and made multiple phone calls to potential foster parents and each one said no for one reason or another.  My husband and I were in our own waiting season during that time and had also been facing multiple rejections.  God used that moment, that experience to awaken me to something I […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Vulnerable ParentsJun. 21, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: What About Her?

The past couple of days my heart has been weighing heavy for the birth moms behind each child we are fostering. We became aware of a recent (horrific) situation leading to the hospitalization of one of the birth moms, while another has been missing for months and another sitting in jail for a year and a half awaiting her deportation trial. As a mom, knowing how deep the love for your child runs, from the moment you hold them for the first time and lay your eyes on their precious little face. If you are a mother, you know this […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 14, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: We’re having a (foster) BABY!

Okay, so not “we” as in Brian and I, but “we” as in our church community.  Over the last couple years we’ve been blessed to have a bunch of little foster babies make their debut.  Some have been with us just for a season, or for a weekend of respite care and some have ended up permanent members of our family.  I couldn’t be prouder of how families have chosen to help children in crisis either by fostering or by supporting our foster families. But it wasn’t always this way in our fostering journey.  In part because we weren’t always […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMay. 24, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: Foster Shame

Everyone knows foster care is hard.  If you didn’t know it going in, you’d know it by the time you told the first person you were going to foster parent.  We’ve all heard the responses or even said them ourselves.  ”I could never do that.”  ”How could you ever stand to give the child back?”  ”Those kids come with all kinds of problems.”  ”I’d never want to deal with those parents.”  ”You really want the government involved with your family?”  ”The system is SO messed up.” While it’s discouraging to hear those responses, there’s a nugget of truth in each […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMay. 17, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: Real Thoughts from a Single Foster Mama

As I walk through this journey of foster care, Jamie and I stand to applaud the single women we know embarking on this journey of middle motherhood. As they share their stories, they each have refused to settle for what the world considers would be the normal next step for them. They’ve jumped when it has been scary, trusted when it’s been dark. When you consider the places you could join the trenches of foster care without actually become a foster parent, here it is. Upfront, right in your face. They are not called to do this alone. Become their “hands of Hur,” […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMay. 3, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: "Why I Love Lambert"

 A couple nights ago we decided to do a family movie time with the kids.  We made some pizza and the kids picked out “The Fox and the Hound”.  They enjoyed it well enough, but after the final credits rolled I remembered there were some Disney shorts left to play.  So we sat with our three adopted kids snuggled in our laps and watched “Lambert the Sheepish Lion” together.  And (of course) I cried. As I’ve discussed before, publicly stating you enjoy something with an adoption theme can get you critiqued.  I’m sure there are ways this isn’t a great adoption […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingApr. 26, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: Lines in the Sand

There are two meanings for drawing a line in the sand. One is that you make a decision not to cross a certain point. No more movement forward, not one more step past it. The other meaning is that a firm decision has been made and you cross that line and never go back. Isn’t that interesting? One line. You either stop right before it or go full-force through it. We’re staring at that line right now. Actually, we’re staring at a lot of lines. Lines in the sand, drawn by God. Our toes are inching their way forward–not out […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten FridaysApr. 19, 2013

Forgotten Fridays: Kids like David

4 year old David had known true neglect in his young life.  One evening shortly after transitioning into a new but very loving foster home, his foster mama shared with him that she was going out with some friends but “Daddy Jon would be with him and she would be back soon.” With fear in his eyes, David looked up and asked “but will Daddy Jon forget to feed me?” My friends, this absolutely breaks my heart.  Kids like David have faced rejection, neglect, abuse, and so much more over the course of their lives.   Kids like David need you and […]

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