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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsFeb. 9, 2018

Forgotten Friday | When the Church Loves the Vulnerable

I remember when the Lord first opened my eyes to the foster care world. It was November 2009 and my heart broke as I watched a video of a 6-year-old girl who was waiting for a foster home to be found for her. The worker sat with her and made multiple phone calls to potential foster parents and each one said no for one reason or another. My husband and I were in our own waiting season during that time and had also been facing multiple rejections. God used that moment, that experience, to awaken me to something I had […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingFeb. 2, 2018

Forgotten Friday | On Being Real Sisters

Pulling up to our elementary school to pick up the girls last week and as I inched closer, I noticed they were both in tears. They were standing with their hands intertwined and locked at their sides and clearly holding back the full out ugly cry. They loaded in the minivan and Evy immediately burst into full out sobs, “They were making fun of us and said ‘you are not sisters.’” The other kids had clearly pointed out the first thing everyone notices about our family: Our children have different skin colors and therefore, in their grade school logic and […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJan. 26, 2018

Forgotten Friday | A child in foster care wants and needs your messy life

You’re a saint, people tell me. Well, no I’m not. Let me show you what can happen in my ordinary family and how the Lord still uses us to provide a loving home for children in foster care. As I sat in the airport with my family waiting to board our 3-hour evening flight home from our vacation, our foster agency’s intake coordinator texted me. We weren’t even home yet! I guess she had noted on her calendar that we would be returning that day and would then be open to a new placement. A 3-month-old baby girl needed a […]

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Advocacy, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 19, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Birth Parents Are Not the Enemy

I’ll never forget the first phone call we shared. She was very nervous and so was I. She had her stereotypes of folks like me and I had mine of folks like her, but when our lives suddenly collided, everything changed. “Hi Sandra*. I’m Jami.” (*name changed for privacy) Just a few days earlier, I was pacing the floor. I was nervous, excited and clueless about the craziness we were about to step into. When the caseworker pulled up, I ran out to the car and for the first time saw, Dayd (3 yrs) and Bobby (7 mo). Oh Dayd, […]

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Advocacy, Forgotten Fridays, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 12, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Connections in Care

I met my first birth mom four years ago. I remember the drive, the feelings and her face. I got her little girl dressed, drove to the mall and unloaded the car with nervous hands and an even shakier heart. As I rounded the corner of the playground where our first meeting was set to take place, I felt my own insecurity surging unsteadily. I was met with emotions that had never even grazed the borders of my mama heart. I watched her face light up as she saw her baby again. She became, in that moment, just another mama. […]

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Aging Out Youth, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJan. 5, 2018

Forgotten Friday | 5 Things that Happen to Kids Who Age Out of Foster Care

Behind each stat is a young person whose life was disrupted by abuse and neglect.The statistic is alarming. Approximately twenty-thousand older children age out of the US foster care system per year. This means that 20,000 young adults ages 18-21 enter into the world without the stability that families bring. While the statistic is hard to hear, the truth about what can happen to these young adults is even more difficult. Here are some facts of what happens to kids who age out of foster care 1) Twenty percent of youth who were in foster care will become instantly homeless […]

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Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 29, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Celebrating Sticky Things

To be a mom is to perfect the art of the repetition. “Hands are for helping, not hurting,” and “Are you asking or telling?” and “Listen and obey the first time,” and “We don’t announce our farts.” Sometimes you start to worry…will it ever sink in? Will it ever stick? But then they get it. And they start to do it for themselves. Those lessons that stick, they’re worth celebrating! Polite Words, Please When you’re constantly moving 90 miles an hour, sometimes it’s hard to remember to use your polite words. Word like please, thank you, and yes ma’am. A […]

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Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 22, 2017

Forgotten Friday | King Joseph, The Carpenter

I started to cry last week. Out of nowhere tears began welling up. No one was hurt. There wasn’t a loss of any sort that pushed me to despair. It may sound absurd but it was actually the genealogy of Jesus found in the book of Matthew that got me (Matt. 1). Now you may be thinking, “He cried while reading this?” 15 Eliud was the father of Eleazar, Eleazar the father of Matthan, and Matthan the father of Jacob. 16 Jacob was the father of Joseph the husband of Mary, by whom Jesus was born, who is called the […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten FridaysDec. 15, 2017

Forgotten Friday | The Me I Once Was

Yet another inspiring video from Heschle, the makers of ReMoved and Remember My Story. Short but not sweet, this two minute and thirty-seven second rap is painful to watch. It wasn’t violent. Lord of the Rings, on the other hand, is much more graphic. But somehow I didn’t shutter or want to turn away in the same way I did from these words and images. Here, it’s the raw, unwavering emotion of a young woman who knew such violence and abuse and names it. She doesn’t pull punches or pretend her pain wasn’t real and ugly and unfair. She also […]

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Adoption, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 8, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Children Are Worth It

I just can’t even tell you how much I love these kids. There are not enough words in my somewhat limited vocabulary that express how rich, deep, authentic and pure my love is for them. They came into my life without expectations. I didn’t care what race or gender they were, or what their histories consisted of. No expectations, just hopeful anticipation. It took me a while (like twenty-five years since the age that barrenness interrupted my life) to hold a baby and feel that smothering, warm and wonderful feeling of motherhood. Sure, I was a foster mother. Sure, my […]

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