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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 4, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Why New? Providing for foster youth and why new is so important

Some people might think I am being a little extreme when I say we should really try to fulfill foster youths’ needs with new things. Well, I will do my best to explain why this could make all the difference for these young men and women. Imagine a 6-year-old little girl. She has two younger siblings; they are 3 and 1. She goes to school every day and is in the first grade. She loves playing with dolls and all things sparkly. Her clothes are tattered and they smell of smoke and must. When she gets home from school her […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingOct. 28, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Life Changing Love

Experiencing God as King has long been my thing, but grasping His deep love for me has often proven elusive….until he recently revealed it in a most profound way. It was Friday and I was taking my foster son out of the car after dropping the big kids off at school. Smiling at that darling face, I hefted him onto my hip and smooched my thousandth kiss. He buried his little head in my neck and I marveled again at my love for him. Because despite the fact that he’s not from my body, I love this baby boy. The way […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingOct. 21, 2016

Forgotten Friday | The Unseen Child

All photos by Rebecca Tredway Photography Sometimes those commercials are just too much for me. You know the ones—maybe they’re trying to motivate you to give money for starving children or shelter for homeless animals. Whatever the end result, they try to get you there by showing you pictures that are guaranteed to break your heart. And they do it because it works! We are visual people and it helps us to see the need and visualize the difference we could make. When we sponsor a child overseas, we want to see their face. When we reunite with an old friend […]

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Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingOct. 14, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Praying for Your Foster Child’s Family

Foster parenting is a continual struggle to come to terms with our lack of control. While we are responsible for all the practical decisions that affect the child in our care, we have no control over the major decisions that affect their future. This is a precarious position to find yourself in and has been one of my major challenges in foster parenting. Sometimes I have tried to respond to this loss of control by worrying or even trying to manipulate the situation to go in a direction I think is best, but ultimately I have had to let go […]

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Advocacy, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, UncategorizedOct. 7, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Why Foster Care Isn’t Adoption

Before I was a foster mom…I find myself starting lots of sentences off like that these days. There’s so much I am learning and seeing and realizing I was wrong about. Before I was a foster mom, foster care and adoption rolled out of my mouth in the same breath. They were like cute little siblings that mirrored this beautiful picture of God’s great redemption and necessary rescuing. I thought they were so similar in their efforts to reveal who Jesus is to a broken world. And they do that. for sure. But that’s where their similarities end for me. […]

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Adoption, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingSep. 30, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Adoption is Not Second Best

Maybe it’s my “mom hair” (thanks, New York Times, for that label) or maybe it’s that I look perpetually tired that encourages near strangers to ask me how many kids I have. At my last dental cleaning, my hygienist (whom I had only met one time prior) asked this very question. “Two,” I replied. “Oh! That’s great!! How old are they?!” “Seven.” I tried to stick with one-word answers because A) she had her hands in my mouth and B) our kids’ entrance to our family is complicated, and I often don’t divulge the details to strangers because I don’t […]

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Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingSep. 23, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Can I Ask You Something?

Our first day at the park together People have lots of questions about my little guy, so here’s the answer to a few of the most common: How long will you have him? I don’t know. Will you be able to adopt him? I don’t know. When will you know? I don’t know. There are a lot of unknowns in the world of foster care, and it’s tough on this planner! I mean, I’m ready to buy us tickets to Disney World for Christmas next year because I know he would love it, but I honestly don’t know what next […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Uncategorized, Vulnerable ParentsSep. 16, 2016

Forgotten Friday | The Cause of Foster Children

I worked a booth for recruiting foster families at a local convention this weekend. To be honest, while the time I was there, I can count on one hand the number of folks who actually engaged me in conversation about the need for foster homes in our communities. I get it. Foster parenting is certainly not for the faint of heart, but I found myself considering why it is important for Christians to step into the world of abuse and neglect. The thought, “If Christians do not take up the cause of foster children and pray for them, then who […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingSep. 9, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Remembering the Kids Who Have Moved On

In the days before our first foster daughter—the one who made me a mom—left to be reunited with an extended family member, I had my husband help me paint her hand pink and press it onto white card stock. I didn’t have a plan for that handprint yet but I knew I needed something more than the 1000s of photos I took to remember her—something I could trace my fingertips across when I was aching from missing her and wondering how she was doing. I also saved the top of the artificial hot pink daisy she had been playing with […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingSep. 2, 2016

Forgotten Friday | Surprise! The Cause of Your Child’s Misbehavior Might Not Be What You Think

Our son just turned four-years-old. He is bright, funny, adventuresome, lovable, good-looking, a good story-teller. I could go on and on. I tell people that I can brag on him because he doesn’t have our genes! Lately though his bad behavior has concerned Danielle and I. Sure some of his behavior is typical four-year-old behavior. But this is more intense, frequent, and long-lasting. Photo Credit: Chance Agrella via Compfight cc When our son yells at me, struggles in social settings or with sleep, refuses to listen or respond when I am talking to him…I admit my first thought and reaction […]

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