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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsDec. 14, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Life After Adoption: She Misses Them

Not long ago, I was putting our little Layla to bed when she began asking me about her birth parents. “When am I going to see them again?” “I don’t know honey,” is all I could answer at first. “I know it’s really hard but you have to trust Mommy and Daddy, ’cause we love you and we are here to protect you and keep you safe. We also want to do what is healthy for you and we don’t feel it is healthy for you right now to see your Birth Mommy and Birth Daddy.” She seemed to take […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 10, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | On Offering Compassion and Doing Justice When I’m Afraid.

In this journey there is a constant testing that has brought me to tears, to clenched fists with exasperation, and to my knees. The process of writing is a friend to me. It takes me by the hand and helps me relate to the emotion that swells within and looms large in me. What begins in her has so much to teach me. Wounds that may be invisible to many are constantly present. But God is gracious in gently calling us all toward healing. He does not force, He beckons. She asks again and again with her words and behavior, “can […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Care Affects on Kids Already in Your Home, Foster ParentingDec. 7, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Foster HOPE

“Why did you decide to do foster care?” the case worker asked me on the Monday after our first weekend with a child in our home. “Well, we have room in our home and love in our hearts” is the answer that I gave that day, and it’s the answer that I give today if most people ask. It’s easy, and it’s fairly honest. But about a million times a day, I have to keep coming back to the rest of the story, the other unspoken reasons for why we are foster parents. Because about a million times a day, […]

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Adoption, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 3, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | 5 Insightful Suggestions to Help You Father Well

I recently began a podcast series entitled Dad to Dad. In these interviews I sit down with another adoptive dad and talk about what it is like to be an adoptive dad—our shortcomings, funny stories, and what we find that helps us to father well. Recently I interviewed Marshall Lyles (if you missed it, you can get it HERE), and I asked Marshall this question—What helps you to father well? Marshall shared four very insightful ideas that help him, and I add one more. Even though Marshall and I talk about being adoptive dads, these suggestions are helpful for every […]

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Adoption, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 30, 2018

Forgotten Friday | This Gift Called Adoption

Nearly 12 years ago, I was a young mom of one. Paige, still an infant, was lying on my bed while I folded laundry and listened to a radio interview of an adoptive family sharing their story. I felt a tug in my spirit and fear gripped my heart. “Oh Lord, I hope you are not trying to tell me something.” Adoption scared me. It was unknown. It was not my dream. It was not my plan…well, unless we couldn’t have biological children. That’s what we said at least. But God. Slowly, we became more aware of this thing called […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 26, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | 8 Common Myths About Foster Care Dispelled

For years, foster care has been misunderstood, unfairly judged, criticized through local media and television shows, and the subject of harsh headlines. It’s time to set the record straight… We spent 9 years in the foster care system, as care-givers to more than 23 children. Six of those children never left our care and became a permanent part of our family from 2008 until 2012. Our years in the system were trying but also filled with lots of beautiful moments. Thankfully we made it a point to live with as much peace as possible. As a result, we still have […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 23, 2018

Forgotten Friday | A Hasty Decision and the Next Big Thing

October 2015. 10:20 p.m. The baby monitor lights up as I’m finally crawling into bed next to my husband. I try to ignore its red flashes. I only put her down an hour ago. How is this happening already? I try telling myself that she’s just having a bad dream, that she’ll calm herself down and go back to sleep. I know she won’t. Her sleep is becoming more fitful each evening. As her cries continue, I carry my pillow and blanket down the hall and camp out beside her crib for what feels like the hundredth night in a […]

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Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysNov. 19, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | If you have ever…

If you have ever prayed for our foster children… If you have ever babysat our foster children… If you have ever offered anything… If you have ever provided a meal for us when our babies arrive… If you have ever held our foster babies… If you have ever played with our foster children… If you have ever asked how we are doing in our walks with the Lord… If you have ever asked for the name of our new foster placement… If you have ever listened to us tell you about our joys and struggles… If you have ever pointed […]

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Adoption, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingNov. 16, 2018

Forgotten Friday | From Orphan to Co-Heir

There is a type of adoption, a compassionate offering, where a mom chooses something different for her child. She places her baby in the loving care of another family, wrapped in a prayer of hope for the future. I have witnessed this up close, in the life of a dear friend, and there are few things more selfless and beautiful. Sometimes the brokenness of divorce leads to adoption. A blending of families creates the opportunity for step-parents to love and raise children as their “own.” I have experienced this and am very thankful for those relationships. Out of God’s great […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, ReunificationNov. 12, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Loving When You Know You’ll Lose

I laid my sweet boy down in the crib tonight. My shirt was damp from his drool and my left arm was tingling as sensation slowly returned. Seconds earlier, his sleepy head rested heavy in the sweet spot of my mama arm–that place that was made just for a baby’s noggin. As I stood from the rocker, his body was limp…so trusting and so at ease. For the flash of that moment, he was mine. Life felt routine and comfortable. I was just another mom effortlessly dancing to the light music of motherhood. And just like that, the moment was […]

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