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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 20, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Foster Care Means More

Foster Care means more mouths to feed more hineys to wipe more fingernails to clip. It means another car seat to buckle another nose to wipe another body to bathe. Foster care means more visits to the doctor more appointments to keep more gas in the car. It means more laundry more dishes more sweeping more working. It means more vomit more snot more tangles more poop more pee. It is more agencies to deal with more systems to navigate more people in your business more government to answer to. Foster care means more uncertainty more desperation more complication more […]

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Advocacy, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 13, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Lines in the Sand

photo credit: Lars Plougmann via photopin cc There are two meanings for drawing a line in the sand. One is that you make a decision not to cross a certain point. No more movement forward, not one more step past it. The other meaning is that a firm decision has been made and you cross that line and never go back. Isn’t that interesting? One line. You either stop right before it or go full-force through it. We’re staring at that line right now. Actually, we’re staring at a lot of lines. Lines in the sand, drawn by God. Our […]

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Advocacy, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 6, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Get Your Hands Dirty

Life is messy. We’d all agree on that. And if you don’t, are you breathing? Even without the weight of someone else’s problems, our own worlds seem heavy at times. But add in another human being and it’s only a matter of time before…BOOM. Explosion of opinions and emotions and drama. I mean, it’s just too much. It’s convenient to turn away from someone else’s crap because the curse of our culture is the ability to choose comfort. So most people do. Some by nature. Others by habit. And most without realizing the devastation they are bringing by disengaging. Then […]

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Advocacy, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 27, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | A {Locked Out} Lesson

Sometimes, you need to be thankful for the silver lining within the chaos. Today, I’m simply thankful that Charlie chose to lock me out of the house AFTER the adoption specialist was here, as opposed to being locked out when she arrived! (Do you know how tricky it is to continually switch from a stern discipline voice to a sickening sweet voice in the hopes you can convince a 3 year old to open either of the doors he has locked? A threat of putting ALL his M&M’s in the garbage finally did the trick.) I often post about foster […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 20, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | A Daily Funeral

I have to listen to an audiobook or podcast while I do housework, or I’ll get distracted. Or sometimes I’ll just put on a soundtrack and sing every role of a Broadway show. (Don’t mind me, neighbors! I’m just in here defying some gravity while I load the washing machine!) On the afternoon of Easter Sunday in 2011, I was listening to audiobook about adoption. As various people shared their thoughts on the subject, one shared that she would struggle connecting the same way with an adopted child as she would with a biological child. I remember thinking to myself, […]

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Encouragement, Family Support, Make a Difference Mondays, Ways to ServeFeb. 13, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | 7 Things Foster Parents Need You to Know

When you become a foster family, it is fantastic to have a community that supports you. I’ve written posts before on the physical ways you can support a foster family, but there’s another aspect of all this I want to address. When you have a foster family in your church, extended family, neighborhood, etc. there is a little bit of education that may be helpful. You may not have time to make a meal or the money to run out and buy diapers as a welcome gift for this new child, but if you’ve got a few minutes I’m going […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 6, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Help! I’m Fostering A Teenager Who Pushes Me to the Edge

One of the most difficult aspects of foster parenting is caring for teenagers who have come from difficult places. The many issues that come with this territory can be too much to handle at times. But, there are a few key ways to parent with success. I could feel hear heartache through the words in her email. With each line I read, my heart sank a little deeper for her. A single mother in her 60s. Forty years deep into the journey of foster care. More than 200 children through her home in that time. If anything I should have […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 30, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Why You Can’t Hold My Baby

Trust. It seems so basic to the human relationship. But it holds more power than almost anything else in our development. Trust is the foundation of our decision-making process. It’s also the most important gift kids from hard places (read: EVERY SINGLE KID IN FOSTER CARE) can be given. “Can I trust the world around me?” You may not hear my baby speaking those words, but he’s thinking them. Critical connections are forming in his little brain and I’ve said “YES” to the call to meet his every need…cry, scream or shout. So when you see me holding this baby, […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 23, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | What is Foster Care Like?

Multiple times over the past two years, people have shyly asked “What is foster care like?” Mostly, the people asking were considering foster care themselves. And they needed to hear the good, the bad and the ugly before they jumped in any deeper. I understand how they felt. I wanted the same thing when we were praying through the enormous, life changing decision; someone on the inside to bare their soul and lay it all out there for consideration. It helps take the edge of the unknown. What is foster care like? Foster care is letting go of life as […]

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Children in Foster Care, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 15, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | The Role of Community in Discovering Identity

Over the years, we’ve been asked how our children feel about being a part of a multi-racial family, and how they’ve adjusted. Our conversation always points back to the importance of your community. When we became a multi-racial family, we considered the toll it might take on our children and on us. We weighed the scenarios as did our children’s birth parents. In the end, we partnered with our children’s birth parents in making the best decision we could. Our children needed a family, and we already deeply loved and cared for one another. We did not ignore the color […]

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