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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 20, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | A Daily Funeral

I have to listen to an audiobook or podcast while I do housework, or I’ll get distracted. Or sometimes I’ll just put on a soundtrack and sing every role of a Broadway show. (Don’t mind me, neighbors! I’m just in here defying some gravity while I load the washing machine!) On the afternoon of Easter Sunday in 2011, I was listening to audiobook about adoption. As various people shared their thoughts on the subject, one shared that she would struggle connecting the same way with an adopted child as she would with a biological child. I remember thinking to myself, […]

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Encouragement, Family Support, Make a Difference Mondays, Ways to ServeFeb. 13, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | 7 Things Foster Parents Need You to Know

When you become a foster family, it is fantastic to have a community that supports you. I’ve written posts before on the physical ways you can support a foster family, but there’s another aspect of all this I want to address. When you have a foster family in your church, extended family, neighborhood, etc. there is a little bit of education that may be helpful. You may not have time to make a meal or the money to run out and buy diapers as a welcome gift for this new child, but if you’ve got a few minutes I’m going […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 6, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Help! I’m Fostering A Teenager Who Pushes Me to the Edge

One of the most difficult aspects of foster parenting is caring for teenagers who have come from difficult places. The many issues that come with this territory can be too much to handle at times. But, there are a few key ways to parent with success. I could feel hear heartache through the words in her email. With each line I read, my heart sank a little deeper for her. A single mother in her 60s. Forty years deep into the journey of foster care. More than 200 children through her home in that time. If anything I should have […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 30, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Why You Can’t Hold My Baby

Trust. It seems so basic to the human relationship. But it holds more power than almost anything else in our development. Trust is the foundation of our decision-making process. It’s also the most important gift kids from hard places (read: EVERY SINGLE KID IN FOSTER CARE) can be given. “Can I trust the world around me?” You may not hear my baby speaking those words, but he’s thinking them. Critical connections are forming in his little brain and I’ve said “YES” to the call to meet his every need…cry, scream or shout. So when you see me holding this baby, […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 23, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | What is Foster Care Like?

Multiple times over the past two years, people have shyly asked “What is foster care like?” Mostly, the people asking were considering foster care themselves. And they needed to hear the good, the bad and the ugly before they jumped in any deeper. I understand how they felt. I wanted the same thing when we were praying through the enormous, life changing decision; someone on the inside to bare their soul and lay it all out there for consideration. It helps take the edge of the unknown. What is foster care like? Foster care is letting go of life as […]

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Children in Foster Care, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 15, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | The Role of Community in Discovering Identity

Over the years, we’ve been asked how our children feel about being a part of a multi-racial family, and how they’ve adjusted. Our conversation always points back to the importance of your community. When we became a multi-racial family, we considered the toll it might take on our children and on us. We weighed the scenarios as did our children’s birth parents. In the end, we partnered with our children’s birth parents in making the best decision we could. Our children needed a family, and we already deeply loved and cared for one another. We did not ignore the color […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 9, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | The Weight of Saying “No”

Today, I am a foster mom who is overwhelmed; brought to tears and on my knees in prayer. I have spit-up on my sweater; I haven’t gotten a full night’s sleep in 7 months, and I’m holding a crying baby as I type. But these things aren’t the reason for my tears; they do not play a role in my broken heart. Why the sadness? Why the heavy heart when all in my life appears to be going so well? Because two weeks ago I said “no.” No to the phone call asking us if we’d like to adopt two […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJan. 2, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Happy New Year {Hey Moms. Let’s not judge.}

Last New Year’s Eve, we sat around our dinner table and each took turns creating goals for ourselves, and for our family—well, except for our little one. He’s a bit too young to determine goals. For him, the goal might have been to eat more candy, and I’m pretty sure he did just that (aka: parent fail). Anyway, after deciding what we should work on for the coming year, I sealed up the slip of paper in an envelope titled, “Family Goals” and stuck it on the refrigerator. There it stayed for the last year—no one thought about it, looked at […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 26, 2016

Make A Difference Monday | No Two Foster Families Look the Same

What Could Your Family Look Like? The trouble with stereotypes is that they rarely are accurate. My idea of the stereotypical foster family was one who always had about six foster kids in their home. Their home arranged half warehouse, half dormitory style. And, of course they drove a van constantly full and on the go. Granted, many foster families DO look like that, and that’s great! I admire and respect these families, both the parents and biological children, who welcome foster kids into their home either for a few days or sometimes a few years at a time. However, sometimes this […]

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Adoption, Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 19, 2016

Make a Difference Monday | A Decade of Hope

Her story is not simple.  In fact, it’s pretty complicated.  Ten years can hold alot.  Abandonment, abuse, neglect, trauma, and a life on the brink of death has turned into love, grace, healing and restoration.  God has had His hand on her life since she was breathed into existence.  My faith is so weak, I often question why He would allow the things she has suffered.  Abandoned at six weeks, with roach bites covering her tiny body, she was taken into custody, and nursed back to health.  She was loved, nurtured, and experienced quick healing with a foster mother who […]

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