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Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysApr. 23, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Terrible, Good, & Hard

There is this story we are living, and we don’t know much of the beginning. And yet, we were invited in and with uncertainty stepped into it all and were asked “will we trust as the pages unfold?” We were asked over and over again “will we love without holding tightly to outcome?” “Will we lay down control?” (because ultimately, we realize we only lose sight of Him when we scramble and grasp for it). We have wanted to give up so many times and have felt so many good and horrible emotions; selfish anger, mourning and deep lament at […]

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Adoption, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysApr. 16, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | What I Really Want to Say to Little Man’s Birth Mom

Little man was born on July 24, 2013, and was placed with us on August 1, 2013. He spent his first week in the NICU going through withdrawal and wanted to be held all the time once we had him in our arms. We had no contact with the birth parents until the first mediation meeting that was held December 19, 2013, to discuss the surrender of his half-sibling for adoption with another foster family. I will never forget the first time I laid on eyes on the birth parents–or the emotions that went through me. For a few weeks, […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, Ways to ServeApr. 9, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | 5 Areas of Need in Foster Care and Adoption

Have you considered what need in foster care or adoption you can meet? Or are you like I was a few years ago? I really had no idea of what foster care really was. And my thoughts about adoption completely focused on me and my wish to have a child of my own. I naively thought that if I weren’t interested in fostering or adopting then it was of no concern to me. I had a shallow understanding of the needs of foster care and adoption. If you don’t intend on meeting a need of foster care and adoption, you […]

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Adoption, Children in Foster Care, Family Support, Make a Difference MondaysApr. 2, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Taking Care of Roots {a little lesson with my daughter}

My daughter came home from school this past week and said, “Mom, we played foster care at school today.” She then said, “I was the foster child and I had two moms.” I told her that sounded fun and interesting. We went on with the rest of the day and she didn’t mention it again. I thought about this conversation the remainder of the week. My daughter is very smart, willful and can be extremely challenging. She walks to the beat of her own drum and is fierce in so many ways. However, it seems that the older she gets, […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 26, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Because Jesus

I’m sitting in a hospital bed a few feet away from a baby that I’ll most likely never watch grow into a toddler. The hiss of oxygen, the alarming monitors and constant stream of visitors in yellow disposable gowns are our current reality. I’m exhausted and my legs hurt. The interrupted sleep is the only thing that reminds me of home. I’ve missed afternoon chats and homework with my big kids, five bedtimes with all of them, hugs and kisses and playtime. Last night, they came up to visit for some face to face time. We enjoyed a delicious hospital […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 19, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Taking A Closer Look at Connection: a TBRI Principle

God created us to connect. If that is true, then why are so many of us terrible at connecting? What many of us don’t realize is that a lot of our ability to connect with others is either enhanced or hindered in the first couple of years of our lives. The way a parent, especially a mother, interacts with her baby while in utero, the weeks following birth, and throughout the baby first months will often come naturally. I think every new parent feels ill-prepared and inadequate when they bring a newborn home. However, all you need to do is […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysMar. 12, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Fostering a Newborn When You Work Full-Time

Our first foster placement was a 2-day-old baby boy. We picked him up from the hospital on a Friday evening and I went back to work the next Tuesday. Thankfully, I had found a daycare for him that accepted babies under the age of 6 weeks. My employer also graciously allowed me to bring him to work with me, when my schedule permitted it. Besides, EVERYONE in my office wanted to hold a baby! Even with these options, it was still incredibly hard to foster a newborn while working full-time. I recall many times just collapsing into the bed once […]

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Advocacy, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, Vulnerable ParentsMar. 5, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | If Only You Knew

I feel your heavy stares as I pull out my government issued benefits card to pay for the few groceries I have in my cart full of home goods and clothes. I know what you’re thinking, “This is what’s wrong with America!” We give food stamps and welfare to people who use and abuse the system, just like you assumed I was doing. My cart wasn’t filled with necessities to feed my family, it wasn’t overflowing with diapers, wipes, and formula, so you must have thought that I was working the system, taking the hard earned tax payers’ dollars and […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Care Affects on Kids Already in Your Home, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 26, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Foster Siblings: How Little Hearts Hurt

I call you the crazy one. The wild child. The spark plug. Elie bug. Lucy (We still don’t know why I call you that…just roll with it). You’re always full of sass. We jokingly say that when you are old enough, we’re shipping you off to Uganda to live on the red dirt roads. That mostly stems from the long season you had with your affection for being naked. ALL. THE. TIME. You sure have enough energy to live life with that kind of reckless abandon. You have a Jekyll and Hyde thing going on. You are tender one moment […]

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Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 19, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | I am not a saint…

I actually do not care much for the Furchester Hotel. I think they’re a little creepy. However, my little buddy goes crazy and finds the characters and songs comforting. So, I sit through it. Not out of obligation or because it’s a wonderful thing to do for him; but because I love him. His dancing and babbling brings me joy. Not a qualification for sainthood. My little buddy has a high level of medical needs. His needs have brought us in contact with many medical and emergency response personnel. When it comes up that he is a foster child, they […]

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