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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysAug. 13, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Why I Love Early Intervention

Are there other moms out there who have been blessed by Early Intervention? It’s been awesome for us. We’ve had three different “types” of therapists over the last three years — physical therapy (PT), speech therapy, and occupational therapy (OT). (Occupational therapy, according to kidshealth.org, helps kids with various needs improve their cognitive, physical, sensory, and motor skills and enhance their self-esteem and sense of accomplishment. I define this because I had to ask when someone suggested it.) In Pennsylvania, Early Intervention is a free service — yes, free — offered through the county that comes to your house — […]

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Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, ReunificationAug. 6, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Saying Hello to the Next Goodbye

We lost a baby a week ago. Not to death, but to life. A new life. One without us in it. With one last kiss, my lips sank into his soft cheeks and his life with us was over. I closed my eyes and tried to breathe him in, knowing when I opened them again, the world would look and feel very different. Every minute, every memory thus far was filled with me–with us. I was still his mama for a few more fleeting moments. I opened my eyes and forced out a smile as I passed him back to […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJul. 30, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | That Donkey Will Bite You

Kids don’t listen the first time. At least, not mine. I mean, they come the first time you say, “Want a snack?” but they certainly don’t hear you say, “Don’t hit your brother” and file that in the permanent log. That’s the thing you repeat a thousand times. We were at a petting zoo recently with my family. The kids were feeding this sweet old donkey (through a fence) — kernels of corn right out of their hands. Excitement! But then the corn ran out. A youthful member of our party put his hand back through the fence. I cautioned […]

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Children in Foster Care, Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJul. 23, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Don’t Waste the Wait

I’m a dreamer. I’m a doer. I can’t stand stagnation. I need my plate full, my to do list long and my next challenge in sight. I want to press on at full speed and I find myself in eager anticipation for the next adventure. And I HATE waiting. I’ve always been this way. Then God called me into foster care. cricket…cricket… First, I waited for God to move on my husband’s heart. That’s enough to kill a woman. Then we waited for weeks as we endured thirty hours of educational classes that qualified us to take the next step. […]

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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJul. 16, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Let Us Stop the Talk and Do Something

I get so discouraged when I hear Christians bash others and talk about all the problems we face in the world, but don’t seem to really do much more than talk. I used to pray that God would feed the hungry, or do this or that, but now I pray that He will guide me to do whatever I’m supposed to do. I used to pray for answers, but now I’m praying for strength. I used to believe that prayer changes things but now I know that prayer changes us and we change things. –Mother Teresa God has called my […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, ReunificationJul. 9, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | How to Support Reunification, Even if You Don’t Want to

If you are a foster parent, you know the word “reunification” comes up a lot. As it now stands, there is a federal law that mandates courts and child welfare agencies to work towards reunification with a biological parent upon children entering care. The law gives fifteen out of twenty-two months for efforts to rectify the reason that children entered care and to assure safety once placed back in the home. People often say, “I could never foster because I could not give the children back.” This is a reasonable response, but it is possible to support the reunification process […]

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Make a Difference MondaysJul. 2, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Happy Birthday America. I Love You.

I write letters to my children on their birthdays. The letters allow me to dote on who they are, document milestones of who they have become, laugh at my own failings as a parent, and write down my own perspective of this particular season of their life. I gather recent photos and include those as well. Most importantly, I write a prayer for the year to come and their future in general. I began this birthday letter writing tradition as soon as we brought our oldest home from the hospital in 2011. I have since written 16 such notes and […]

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Caseworker, Encouragement, Foster Care Workers, Make a Difference MondaysJun. 25, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Grace for the Agency Workers

I was painfully aware of my tardiness as I knocked on the door of an enthusiastic couple waiting for me to fulfil my role in their adoption licensing process. I internally felt the sting of how arriving nineteen minutes late to this home reflected on the entire agency and process and prayed that this would not leave a lasting negative perception regarding how my agency values the time of foster and adoptive homes. Then I realized that the reality is I would not be the last person late to their home. Quickly I was reminded of my own frustration as […]

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Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJun. 18, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Two journeys.

I haven’t written about this for a few reasons, but mainly because I don’t want it to be a distraction. Foster care isn’t about our infertility. It has never been. We didn’t start fostering because we were infertile. Back then, we didn’t even know. But in recent months, we’ve acknowledged the obvious: We aren’t having kids biologically. It’s sad and hard. But knowing hasn’t changed our reasons for fostering. Quite the opposite. Infertility can make fostering much more difficult. And vice versa. We desire to grow our family. But we desire more to love well the kids who come into our home. And so […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJun. 11, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | 5 Reasons I Enjoy Being a Foster Dad

Before  I got married, my future wife had asked me two questions: 1) Would you ever consider becoming an overseas missionary? And 2) Would you ever consider adoption? I said yes to both. What else could I say? I was in love. Little did I know, we would be exploring the idea of adoption a few short years later after the birth of our second son. This led us to become foster parents. Reflecting on the last 9 years, here are the top 5 reasons I love being a foster dad. 1. I enjoy taking part in true and undefiled […]

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