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Advocacy, Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsDec. 14, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Life After Adoption: She Misses Them

Not long ago, I was putting our little Layla to bed when she began asking me about her birth parents. “When am I going to see them again?” “I don’t know honey,” is all I could answer at first. “I know it’s really hard but you have to trust Mommy and Daddy, ’cause we love you and we are here to protect you and keep you safe. We also want to do what is healthy for you and we don’t feel it is healthy for you right now to see your Birth Mommy and Birth Daddy.” She seemed to take […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysDec. 10, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | On Offering Compassion and Doing Justice When I’m Afraid.

In this journey there is a constant testing that has brought me to tears, to clenched fists with exasperation, and to my knees. The process of writing is a friend to me. It takes me by the hand and helps me relate to the emotion that swells within and looms large in me. What begins in her has so much to teach me. Wounds that may be invisible to many are constantly present. But God is gracious in gently calling us all toward healing. He does not force, He beckons. She asks again and again with her words and behavior, “can […]

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The Forgotten PodcastNov. 19, 2018

Supporting, Loving and Going Above and Beyond for Biological Parents

Jamie Finn started fostering because she wanted to “rescue kids who had terrible parents.” She was immediately humbled with her first placement when she realized that she wasn’t all that different than the biological parents of the child she was caring for—it was only the grace of God that separated her decisions from their decisions. God began to change her heart and her mission regarding foster care and biological parents. Listen in to learn how she works to support, love and go above and beyond for her kids’ biological parents! Let’s fight to go above and beyond in showing love. […]

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Advocacy, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference Mondays, Vulnerable ParentsMar. 5, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | If Only You Knew

I feel your heavy stares as I pull out my government issued benefits card to pay for the few groceries I have in my cart full of home goods and clothes. I know what you’re thinking, “This is what’s wrong with America!” We give food stamps and welfare to people who use and abuse the system, just like you assumed I was doing. My cart wasn’t filled with necessities to feed my family, it wasn’t overflowing with diapers, wipes, and formula, so you must have thought that I was working the system, taking the hard earned tax payers’ dollars and […]

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Adoption, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingMar. 2, 2018

Forgotten Friday | The Moral Dilemma of a Foster Parent

The goal of foster care is reunification, until the state makes an argument that the parental rights should be terminated and a judge rules that decision. For us, Baby I was referred by the state with the intention that his goal will be adoption—so even though his current goal is reunification, we are hoping to eventually adopt him. Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. Therein lies the dilemma—as a mom, I don’t want to see his BM fail. I want her to see how amazing he is, […]

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Advocacy, Forgotten Fridays, Foster Parenting, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 19, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Birth Parents Are Not the Enemy

I’ll never forget the first phone call we shared. She was very nervous and so was I. She had her stereotypes of folks like me and I had mine of folks like her, but when our lives suddenly collided, everything changed. “Hi Sandra*. I’m Jami.” (*name changed for privacy) Just a few days earlier, I was pacing the floor. I was nervous, excited and clueless about the craziness we were about to step into. When the caseworker pulled up, I ran out to the car and for the first time saw, Dayd (3 yrs) and Bobby (7 mo). Oh Dayd, […]

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Advocacy, Forgotten Fridays, Vulnerable ParentsJan. 12, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Connections in Care

I met my first birth mom four years ago. I remember the drive, the feelings and her face. I got her little girl dressed, drove to the mall and unloaded the car with nervous hands and an even shakier heart. As I rounded the corner of the playground where our first meeting was set to take place, I felt my own insecurity surging unsteadily. I was met with emotions that had never even grazed the borders of my mama heart. I watched her face light up as she saw her baby again. She became, in that moment, just another mama. […]

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The Forgotten PodcastDec. 4, 2017

Establishing a Meaningful Relationship with Birth Parents

Meet Wendy Carlton, a foster and adoptive mom who found joy in fostering, and in developing a meaningful relationship with her child’s biological mother. Learning more about the mother’s history helped Wendy understand the need for good mentors and role models. “She couldn’t be a good mom or role model because she never had that herself,” says Wendy. The story of how God orchestrated the details of their foster placement will help you grow your trust in God’s timing. While I was serving in his motherly role, I wasn’t trying to take her motherly role. –Wendy Carlton Wendy’s Story Wendy […]

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Adoption, Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingDec. 1, 2017

Forgotten Friday | A Day I Will Never Forget

“Jami, can I ask you a favor?” I knew the distraught voice on the other end of the line was our foster kids’ mom (who was very near her due date). “Can you drive me to the hospital? We don’t have any gas in our car.” She was having contractions every two minutes and she was in a lot of pain. I was still in my PJ’s and robe and was getting my coat on to run the girls to school (in my PJ’s and robe!), so I knew I couldn’t get there right away. I encouraged her to call […]

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