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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJun. 8, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Our Foster Story

My father is the reason that I started fostering, and it is his memory that makes me dig deep on the tough days and remember why we do this. My Dad was born the second child to a couple late in life. They already had a daughter, a golden child who could do no wrong. To make a very long story short, his parents never wanted him.  Not only that, but they made sure he knew it every single day. Growing up I heard bits and pieces of his story, never a lot at one time. It was obvious that he […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Care Affects on Kids Already in Your Home, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 26, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Foster Siblings: How Little Hearts Hurt

I call you the crazy one. The wild child. The spark plug. Elie bug. Lucy (We still don’t know why I call you that…just roll with it). You’re always full of sass. We jokingly say that when you are old enough, we’re shipping you off to Uganda to live on the red dirt roads. That mostly stems from the long season you had with your affection for being naked. ALL. THE. TIME. You sure have enough energy to live life with that kind of reckless abandon. You have a Jekyll and Hyde thing going on. You are tender one moment […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingFeb. 23, 2018

Forgotten Friday | Unforgettable

I was in Baltimore on a business trip when I got the message. “Any chance you would want placement of a newborn baby boy?” my social worker asked. I didn’t need any more information than that. Of course, I wanted him. L. and I both love babies, and he would make an excellent big brother. “Now is not your time,” God said. I raced through the details and solved the problems in my mind, immediately reformatting our home and family dynamic and schedule to try to fit this precious little one. “Now is not your time.” I said no to […]

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Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 19, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | I am not a saint…

I actually do not care much for the Furchester Hotel. I think they’re a little creepy. However, my little buddy goes crazy and finds the characters and songs comforting. So, I sit through it. Not out of obligation or because it’s a wonderful thing to do for him; but because I love him. His dancing and babbling brings me joy. Not a qualification for sainthood. My little buddy has a high level of medical needs. His needs have brought us in contact with many medical and emergency response personnel. When it comes up that he is a foster child, they […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 12, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Love Heals All

I hold on tight as I embrace the hug from my foster daughter. Her legs awkwardly fumble to get comfortable as she wraps them around me as if she were a mere toddler. Her small frame can be felt as I squeeze her tight and remind her just how much I love her. My heart hurts when I realize these hugs will not last forever, but I remind myself that with each warm embrace I am teaching her she deserves to be loved. That alone is worth it. I wipe the tears away from my 2-year-old’s eyes as she falls […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysFeb. 5, 2018

Make a Difference Monday | Why You Should Never Give Up on Foster Care

I get it! Let me just say that clearly before we go too much further. I completely understand why people want to walk away from foster care altogether. If you’re not dealing with difficult case managers, a court system that says one thing but does another, birth parents who continually bail on visitations, you’re dealing with children who are pushing you to your absolute limit! We’ve been there. We have the scars to prove it. So, I get it. In 2008, just four years after we began taking placements, we had both had enough. One of our placements was diagnosed […]

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Children in Foster Care, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJul. 31, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | Parenting Should-Haves: Mamas — Give Yourself Some Grace

“Mom, J was saying mean things about you and dad yesterday on the bus. He told people you say the F-word and that you don’t feed him for five days. He’s lying. He lied.” I can always count on my daughter to be honest. But, for the love, we were six blocks from the kids’ school, running late, and my coffee was cold. At that moment, I didn’t have the emotional capacity to process something so significant. Immediately, from the back seat, J piped up, “Someone ELSE said that about their parents. Not me.” I tried to remain calm while […]

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Children in Foster Care, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJul. 28, 2017

Forgotten Friday | Best interest.

Often we debate what’s in the best interest of a child. Number of activities? Dinner routines? Discipline methods? But rarely do we debate who is in the best interest of the child. That agonizing question is saved for divorces and foster care. Here, a judge, a stranger to the child, somehow has to determine who should care for and raise her. And I can’t imagine the weight of that question. In foster care, the judge has to consider the biological parent, who despite his faults, is the one adult this child has known all her life long. The one adult […]

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Encouragement, Foster Parenting, Make a Difference MondaysJul. 24, 2017

Make a Difference Monday | If Foster Care is Hard, You’re Probably Doing it Right

I remember the moment. The four of us were all sitting on the kitchen counters eating cereal at ten p.m. (or it might have been ice-cream. . . we were young and stressed) debriefing about the events of the day. We were all recent college graduates in our early twenties who were responsible for the day-in and day-out love and nurture of 7 boys, mostly teens and preteens. Boys who had come from trauma. Boys who couldn’t safely live with their parents. Boys who brought their unhealthy coping skills and beautiful smiles into this house designed to be their home […]

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Encouragement, Forgotten Fridays, Foster ParentingJul. 21, 2017

Forgotten Friday | 9 Tips for Successfully Navigating the Child Welfare System as a Foster Parent

The foster care system is complicated. But there ARE things that foster parents can do to more effectively navigate it. If there is one thing most people involved with child welfare can say about the foster care system (US), it is this: The system is complicated. But there ARE things that foster parents can do to more effectively navigate it. Here are just a few: 1) Don’t buy into the myths. There are many negative opinions about foster parents, case managers, attorneys, biological parents, and the system as a whole. Unfortunately, some of these opinions have turned into myths about […]

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